mswonderful Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 As a single girl in her early 20s who is dating and trying to meet men, I keep coming across advice to be "interesting." I know that "interesting" is different to everyone, as interests vary, but it seems like a lot of pressure--sometimes borderline, that I have to be "entertaining." I have a bachelors degree, I have a steady full-time job, 3 best girl friends, I work out almost every day, and I love to do new things/learn/go new places, and all of that stuff. However, I'm still single. What, in general, makes a girl interesting? Does it mean that the guy must want to participate in all of those interests also, or does it just mean that I should have a life? Does it mean I have to be a great story teller? What? I keep reading all these articles and it makes me seem like I should have some dual superhuman secret persona with how much they push "be mysterious and interesting to him!" Seriously! At least, guys, can you give me this--What makes a girl NOT INTERESTING?
Isolde Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 Honestly? I think interesting is pretty far down on the list of things men want. If the chemistry is there, and you're nice, attractive and fun, you don't need to be off the wall to get a guy's interest. Besides, interesting is an extremely subjective term. I've had crushes on some very offbeat, eccentric, "different" guys, but also on pretty "normal" guys, and I liked the normal ones better in the long run.
zhsoj Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 Bah, I'd say that's all bull to sell magazines... Really it's pretty hard for a girl to not be interesting to a heterosexual man. After that it's just common interests and what not... If I found a girl that knew calculus/physics/computers/something-similar I'd be in heaven. If instead of 70 virgins I got 70 cute gals that were nerdy and outdoorsy I'd blow myself up tomorrow.
Green Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 Isolde is very interesting and its probably because she be super fine. So yeah I'm going to have to go with looking good makes you interesting and being fat makes you boring
windows Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 To be 'interesting' means to catch ones interest. Sorry for stating the obvious but to see 'interesting' traits in a woman; its a matter of perception. For example some guys will look towards your chest region out of 'interest' while a blind man would listen to the sound of your voice out of 'interest'. Know your target market before you pitch your selling price to them; what kind of men are you interested in? Now ask what kind of women are they interested in? You would use worms to catch the fish rather than the cheese you would use to catch a mouse. Feeling metaphoric today For me; quirky personalities make girls interesting.
Humbleman Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 I like a woman who is capable of engaging me in activities and discussion. I like a woman who is abstract, wild and fun to be around. I like a woman who doesn't take herself too seriously, I like weird and wacky personalities. A girl can be as gorgeous as Eva Green or Salma Hayek, but if she is boring, takes herself too seriously and is all career orientated to the tenth degree then I'm running far into the distance away from her.
Viking Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 For me, an interesting girl is someone who takes care of herself, but isn't afraid to be a little "undone" sometimes. Wear the sweatpants one day, but dress up another and it makes us look at you in a different way. I have come to a crossroads with two girls I work with. I considered both of them interesting, however, after spending time with one, she became less interesting because she was throwing herself at me and we were constantly hanging out and whatnot. She'd show up at work on her off days to talk to me. Kinda creepy/stalker-ish. She'd be always laying it on thick talking about how she likes me more than some other guy at work and how she'd rather go to the bar with me blah blah blah. Her "talk" turned into blather and her being so available is a big turnoff. I made the mistake of asking her to lunch because I didn't know what else to do. This other girl with whom I work is different. She's pretty quiet, doesn't hurl herself at me, but does initiate conversation every now and then. I asked her out to the movies and she said that because we don't know each other very well, that she's bringing her sister and I have to bring a friend. This is my kind of girl. She's not throwing herself at me and is actually pretty traditional (OK, really traditional, but I dig it). She doesn't want to watch movies with fighting and profanity (eliminates many movies), but this shows me that there is a lot more to her than meets the eye. For you to be "interesting", you don't need to have a whole bunch of intrigue and mystery. You need to be yourself and figure out what kind of guy you like (you said you're in the gym often, why not make friends with an attractive guy there and go from workout buddy to makeout buddy?). As with the fishing with cheese, if you're draping your nerdy side/sporty side/whatever side to the wrong crowd, you're selling a cart of turnips. Sure, its an abundance of something, but nobody is buying it. Isolate the type of man you want in your head, hone the image that you want to portray and "sell" it (don't whore it out, there is a difference). Don't be over eager, but don't be too reserved. But don't change who you are as a person. You won't like who you become and eventually he will see that.
BlueHarvest Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 Type of girl that's interesting to me is one who is into geeks. I'm currently seeing one who thinks it's "hawt" that I know how to build a computer. <3 In the words of Van Wilder "...and they are interested in men who have larger then normal....medulla oblongatas..."
Green Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 Type of girl that's interesting to me is one who is into geeks. I'm currently seeing one who thinks it's "hawt" that I know how to build a computer. <3 In the words of Van Wilder "...and they are interested in men who have larger then normal....medulla oblongatas..." I'm interested in girls that have larger then normal booblongatas
D-Jam Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 What, in general, makes a girl interesting? I think you're interesting enough. You first need to bear in mind that not all men are out for the same thing. You have men who want a future wife, some who just want a girlfriend, some who just want sex, and some who just want attention. On top of that, you have men who love a woman with interests, hobbies, a brain, spine, etc...and then other men who love a woman who just acts as his trophy and ornament. A girl who "isn't interesting" to me is the one who basically makes her whole life about being hot and shallow. She can't talk about anything other than gossip, shopping, celebrities, and drama. You ask her about current events and she'll give you short answers or look at you the way cheerleaders look at the school nerd. Worse are the ones who think life is High School and thus worry more about popularity and image than growing up. I've met many women who were beautiful, fun, but were quite boring. They never went to school, had no career goals or skills, can't talk about anything, and their only interests are to party, get drunk, shop, and have sex. Their only future plans are to find a man and get their "Mrs Degree". How can they possibly hope to keep a man's attention when they are boring themselves? How can they demand a man be interesting when they themselves are just plain boring? OP, you're interesting. Just stick to your guns, have realistic standards for men, and you'll find a large amount of possible mates.
fral945 Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 What' date=' in general, makes a girl interesting?[/quote'] 1) Physical attractiveness 2) Skills, hobbies, or attitudes in life that differ from the norm or matches some that he has It also depends upon who you are trying to attract as well. Different strokes for different folks. Does it mean that the guy must want to participate in all of those interests also, or does it just mean that I should have a life? Does it mean I have to be a great story teller? What? I keep reading all these articles and it makes me seem like I should have some dual superhuman secret persona with how much they push "be mysterious and interesting to him!" What kind of magazines are you reading? If you're reading women's magazines, remember that they are written mostly by women, not men. At least' date=' guys, can you give me this--What makes a girl NOT INTERESTING?[/quote'] You are not interesting to a man if: 1) you are not physically attractive to him 2) your skills, hobbies, or attitudes in life do no match his or differ greatly 3) you have few skills, hobbies, or interests I'm interested in girls that have larger then normal booblongatas Those always interest me.
Zapbasket Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 Girl here, chiming in. I think the key ingredient to being interesting in other people's eyes is to become interesting in your OWN eyes. Do you, say, find yourself fretting all the time to where it drives YOU crazy? If it drives you nuts such that you wish you could be someone else, it probably drives others nuts, too. Nothing is more interesting, and more attractive, than a person who appreciates themselves and enjoys their own company. For those people, external company is simply a bonus; it doesn't fill a NEED (i.e., for entertainment, for reassurance, etc.). Thus people feel they can enjoy hanging out with someone like that because there's no pressure.
zhsoj Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 Girl here, chiming in. I think the key ingredient to being interesting in other people's eyes is to become interesting in your OWN eyes. Do you, say, find yourself fretting all the time to where it drives YOU crazy? If it drives you nuts such that you wish you could be someone else, it probably drives others nuts, too. Nothing is more interesting, and more attractive, than a person who appreciates themselves and enjoys their own company. For those people, external company is simply a bonus; it doesn't fill a NEED (i.e., for entertainment, for reassurance, etc.). Thus people feel they can enjoy hanging out with someone like that because there's no pressure. I enjoy my own company so much that I never leave myself.
Rubix718 Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 someone well traveled and does volunteer work.
zhsoj Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 someone well traveled and does volunteer work. Hello peace corps.
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