BlueEyedGirl Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 I think you should do the exact opposite of every insinct you have about this guy. Example: you want to send him a card, but you should really do nothing. I can't stress highly enough how the value of doing nothing. I have been in a situation such as yours and once I stopped chasing the guy, he came around.Too bad I have lost interest by then.
Author dakotamaiden Posted November 26, 2008 Author Posted November 26, 2008 we are friends, iam in my 40s never had a real close guy friend before so its hard for me sometimes. i value his friendship. evey guy ive none only wanted sex and i always thought it was more. thats why its so confusing sometimes with this guy. all i wanted to do was send him a christmas card with a little personal message besides merry christmas. thanks everyone for all your help i wont ask again
prettybaby Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 No offense, but I thought you were 19 or something. The whole card thing is like a teenager flirting move. Not effective at all. The more guys I dated, the more I learned to become straight forward. Guys don't like all that subtle mind reading crap. Not saying you should throw yourself at his feet either, but just be straight forward. And the whole joking thing you mention sounds like a big headache that you're now trapped into.
Angel1111 Posted November 27, 2008 Posted November 27, 2008 okay weve been friends for 3 months, we talk on the phone like 1 hr a week, plus see each other at work sometimes. he knows i would like to be more than friends. but hes draging his feet because that would be a relationship. that hes not into right now. If he's dragging his feet then that means he has doubts about being in a relationship with you. Any comment you write on the card that even eludes to 'thinking about you', 'wish you were here' or anything along those lines will only backfire on you (and that includes sending him a pic of you in a bikini). If a guy wants to be with you, he will be. If you make him feel chased or pressured, he'll turn and run. Leave it alone. Write the standard, "Merry Christmas!" and be done with it.
Author dakotamaiden Posted November 27, 2008 Author Posted November 27, 2008 iam just going to write hot dude merry christmas. ive told him before that hes hot. he will like that
Author dakotamaiden Posted November 28, 2008 Author Posted November 28, 2008 thanks for everyones comments.
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