dakotamaiden Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 after i write merry christmas can i write ill be thinking about you. i like him we are just friends right now. i want to add a little personal note, without going overboard, so to let him know i will be thinking about him.. this is the guy that said "i love ya your great" then quickly went out of the house. anyone think of a cute little message i could put in there THANKS!!!!
windows Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 sure go ahead; if he really likes you he'll take it as a sign you're interested. if he's not interested or is overanalytical; he might pass it off as you just teasing him. "I'll be thinking about you" sounds plain and fine to me. maybe with 'xx' on the end or something? who knows?
Angel1111 Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 Personally, I wouldn't write that. I don't know what your circumstances are with him but he might take it the wrong way.
Author dakotamaiden Posted November 25, 2008 Author Posted November 25, 2008 we are friends and i like him he told me i love ya your great as a friend thats the way i took it.
prettybaby Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 Wow, you're definitely a planner. Thinking about Christmas cards already? I'm not sure about writing that. I think it really depends on your situation with him (how long you've known each other, in what situation, how old you both are, whether he's definitely single, and how you guys interact and how often you interact). So a background story might help us understand better. It could be perfectly fine or absolutely not. It's hard to tell from this post.
sscutie Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 you should go ahead and write what you want, especially in a xmas card... i think u can get away with anything if its on a xmas card
Author dakotamaiden Posted November 25, 2008 Author Posted November 25, 2008 okay weve been friends for 3 months, we talk on the phone like 1 hr a week, plus see each other at work sometimes. he knows i would like to be more than friends. but hes draging his feet because that would be a relationship. that hes not into right now.
Author dakotamaiden Posted November 25, 2008 Author Posted November 25, 2008 so hat do you think about my situation and writing something special
Trialbyfire Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 How about "Having fun, wish you were here!" and include a pic of yourself on the beach drinking a mai tai.
Author dakotamaiden Posted November 26, 2008 Author Posted November 26, 2008 good but we live in a state where it is winter. ha ha
Trialbyfire Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 Hey, it's just an opportunity to send him a pic of yourself in a bikini. Don't you any from last summer?
Author dakotamaiden Posted November 26, 2008 Author Posted November 26, 2008 i can find one good idea
RecordProducer Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 "I'll be thinking of you is romantic but kinda too emotion-involving and non-challenging. It could potentially also go completely unnoticed. I'd say something like "Merry Christmas, cute dude!" It's playful, yet innocent. It'll make him wonder what it means, if he likes you. Thinking that someone is cute might mean something or nothing. Guys want to hear that you find them attractive (at the beginning). They don't want to hear that you have feelings or tender thoughts of them. Thinking of someone might mean you care about them, not necessarily that you find them attractive. The thing is, you expect to throw the ball in his court, but it might be misunderstood and he might not throw the ball back. "Cute" will definitely intrigue him. And if he's not interested, there's nothing bad in finding your friend cute.
RecordProducer Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 okay weve been friends for 3 months, we talk on the phone like 1 hr a week, plus see each other at work sometimes. he knows i would like to be more than friends. but hes draging his feet because that would be a relationship. that hes not into right now.Oh, I didn't see this part. In this case, I recommend you don't take it any further than the friend zone. The ball is laready in his court and he's not doing anything about it. At this point, anything you do will be considered chasing and will turn him off. Just forget about him and he might become interested later. But if he knows he can have you, you'll never get him.
Author dakotamaiden Posted November 26, 2008 Author Posted November 26, 2008 how about if i say hot dude i tell him hes hot when iam teasing him. and he likes it. i know he really likes me because he has told me
Author dakotamaiden Posted November 26, 2008 Author Posted November 26, 2008 any other cute sayings like cute dude ????
Trialbyfire Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 Oh, I didn't see this part. In this case, I recommend you don't take it any further than the friend zone. The ball is laready in his court and he's not doing anything about it. At this point, anything you do will be considered chasing and will turn him off. Just forget about him and he might become interested later. But if he knows he can have you, you'll never get him. I completely missed that entire section. Doh! I agree. If he doesn't want to be reeled in, back off. I would just say "Have a wonderful Christmas" and sign it. No flirting, nothing.
Author dakotamaiden Posted November 26, 2008 Author Posted November 26, 2008 have to say something we tease each other all the time i like hot dude since ive told him before he is hot.
Trimmer Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 after i write merry christmas can i write ill be thinking about you. I think that one's great, because then around Dec 20, after he gets it, we'll get a new poster here on LS, and he'll be asking "She wrote 'I'll be thinking about you.' What does it mean???"
Author dakotamaiden Posted November 26, 2008 Author Posted November 26, 2008 i just wanted ideas of something cute to say without being to much we are friends we have chemistry between us but have not acted on it. wanted to write something so he would give me a little extra thought wanted some ideas whats wrong with that????
RecordProducer Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 i just wanted ideas of something cute to say without being to much we are friends we have chemistry between us but have not acted on it. wanted to write something so he would give me a little extra thought wanted some ideas whats wrong with that????No, YOU feel the chemistry for him and HE hasn't acted on it. That's what's wrong. If you want to have this guy wrapped around your finger, don't buy him a card at all. When he gives you one, tell him "Ooooh, I am so sorry, I forgot to buy you one." I bet you're not sure if he's getting you a card at all. Just resist the urge to show him how wonderful he is and how much you want him. That behavior doesn't yield any results. Doesn't want a relationship right now? That's BS. People follow their hearts and instincts and then find rational excuses for their actions. Stop showing him the chemistry you feel for him and he might just come around.
Yamaha Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 No, YOU feel the chemistry for him and HE hasn't acted on it. That's what's wrong. If you want to have this guy wrapped around your finger, don't buy him a card at all. When he gives you one, tell him "Ooooh, I am so sorry, I forgot to buy you one." I bet you're not sure if he's getting you a card at all. Just resist the urge to show him how wonderful he is and how much you want him. That behavior doesn't yield any results. Doesn't want a relationship right now? That's BS. People follow their hearts and instincts and then find rational excuses for their actions. Stop showing him the chemistry you feel for him and he might just come around. I agree. YOu need to tone it down and let him chase you. If you know of a guy at work you might try talking to him and let the guy know he might loose you if he doesn't make a move. If he knows you are there waiting for him it just makes him stall and take his time.
Trialbyfire Posted November 26, 2008 Posted November 26, 2008 Before you get into any serious game playing, consider how much you value his platonic friendship. If you're willing to risk that friendship for something more, then do whatever you're comfortable doing. If you're only being friends with the hope of something more, then there should never be fear of loss. Don't ever let fear of loss cause you to settle for behaviour you're unhappy with. If you want to win the game, you can't care. If you pretend to be someone you're not, you might win short-term but in the long-term, most lose.
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