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My ex boyfriend has been hanging out with his ex...ALOT...let's just say that me and her are not exactly best friends. In the past she tried to break us up so many times by making up lies. He would actually believe her sometimes, it was horrible. Now they're "friends" and it's really bothering me. I know it shouldn't but it does. I wonder if she is making up any more stories (as she always has) and the bad thing if she did, he would believe her and not even tell me. He hasn't tried to contact me in almost 3 weeks now and it sucks to not know anything. I never got an explanation to why all of a sudden I was out of his life, I heard from a friend he's out there playing victim about things I have done to him. He acts as if he is glad to be rid of me and there is no need for all that. I am clueless to what exactly happened but i KNOW him and i know there have got to be things I don't know about, nor do I even want to know. I guess the whole point of this thread is that he could hear LIES about me and actually believe them, never confront me and go on with this idea that I was a bad girlfriend. ( the girl used to always tell him that she saw me with this guy and that guy kissing and stuff, which were all LIES and he would believe her...it drives me insane) so i wouldn't be surprised if she did something like that...I simply don't want him to think wrong of me :( I wonder why he just cut me out of his life. I can't call him or anything because he wouldn't even bother talking to me and plus it would be weird to ask him "oh has she said anything bad about me" cause it's just something I'm assuming. Probably overthinking but if you knew her, you would know why I think like this.

 

 

I guess I will never get answers to any of my question. Why he left out of nowhere? I don't think he is even going to text me for the holidays :( I need to let this go but it's hard when you have so many questions without answers, and when the dumper plays the victim! What the?? :rolleyes::confused:

 

 

Any input, advice?

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You need to go strict strict NC, it's the only way you don't find out information like this, I know it's hard but its needed. The BEST thing to heal and make oyu feel better is to nothing what's going on in their life, if oyu know a friend who knows them ask them not to speak about him, don't bring him up don't ask how is he doing. My ex also told me crap like that her and this new guy are just friends at school, then a mutual friend after I asked how she is told me their dating I felt crushed, but that's life, and I learnt my lesson, now i don't ask.

 

My ex cheated on me, dumped me I never got a explanation either, not even a sorry, not even a nickle of remorse, all I got was a forget about us through a text message.

 

But I won't contact, yes I think everyday, every hour, maybe even every minute, but at least if her life is happy with her new man I don't hear it, if its horrible I don't know either, and not knowing is better than knowing in my opinion

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I've been lurking on here a bit lately and seen a lot of your posts, I just wanted to ask if you have been seeing a counsellor or something similar about this? I know I tend to go over and over and over things in my head like you do and I've found going to see someone once a week helps me get it all out and find some (slight) comfort and peace of mind. Its also been (somewhat) helpful for me being able to maintain NC as I say to the counsellor what I would like to say to him.

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