TurtlePower Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 First of all thanks for any and all advice given. My two friends (Kevin and Andy) are going through a disagreement, both unyielding in their refusal to speak to each other and it is over....you guessed it....a girl. So, lately it isn't any fun for myself as well as our other friend who is stuck in the middle, we don't want to appear that we are choosing sides over one friend or the other. It started when Andy started dating his gf, Heather, they are a good healthy couple. For awhile, in our group of friends they were the only couple. A few months later Kevin entered into a relationship that ultimately turned toxic (I think this is a precursor to recent events), so he got rid of her. To make a long story, short. Kevin recently admitted that he had feelings for Heather and thought she deserved better than Andy. Kevin did indeed admit to this to Andy, said he didn't care and no hard feelings. Kevin couldn't forgive himself for feeling this way as he felt he betrayed Andy despite that Andy was indifferent about it. Oh, did I mention that Heather is Kevin's boss?? That further complicated issues as Kevin tried to avoid her, switching out of shifts so he won't have to see her, even asked for a transfer. At this point, I think Andy said enough was enough, and ultimately called Kevin a baby or a brat, something along tbose lines. Kevin caught word of this and took offense. Sense then, they have been mortal enemies. They don't even acknowledge the other's presence as they walk by. What makes it difficult, is what do i do? They are still both of my friends, but yet I don't want to give off the impression I favor one over the other (When honestly, I agree with Andy). I try to play middleman, but it is getting increasingly difficult as Andy asks me to hang out. Kevin then says "Are you going to Andy's show?" I tell him yes, he looked disappointed or angry, not sure. I did tell him that i am still his friend as well as Andy's, he said he understood. Ever since their dispute, I haven't hung out with either one of them in a month. I'm still cordial to both. The problem lies in the fact that Kevin is all about loyalty, he probably thinks i am being disloyal to him if i hang out with Andy, when that isn't remotely true, then i risk having kevin angry with me, and all the baggage that goes with that. Ahhh why do my friends have to ask like junior high girls??? And I know what you are thinking, I tried to get them to talk to each other to no avail.
whichwayisup Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 You and your friend tell them both to leave you guys out of it and definately DO stay out of their fight. It has nothing to do with you, nor your friend..
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