How to get her back?

[nyckid]

Ok this will be the last thread I post on this website, so I will go into detail.me and my girlfriend went out for 3 years, and she broke up with me almost 3 months ago. She broke up with me for reasons such as me being too controlling, and we argued all the time. (I have improved myslef alot since than, and if given another chance buy her really wouldnt screw up).

 

At first like so many other people i begged and pleaded to the point where she didnt want to talk to me at all. Since that time i talked to her on and off just as friends but she was always angry and just flat out didnt want anything to do with me. She walked around like she never even knew me.

 

I wrote her one last love letter, and explained how i wanted her back. She said "no sorry". I told her its ok i understand, and went about my bussiness.

 

I didnt talk to her at all in the mean time, and followed all of your steps After two weeks she came up to me out of the blue, and was asking me how i was doing, because i had just got an injury in baseball. It was strange because she was being so nice, but i didnt think much of it.

 

Sure enough the next day she text me and wanted to hang out so we did. She was being really nice and i can actualy say that i felt good to be around her. She had said that she was sorry for being mean since we broke up and she was really making it seem like she was starting to like me again. For the next 3 days she text me, called me, and wanted to walk with me to my classes. She even said thanks for walking with me, we walked to my class.

 

Just when i thought things were getting better they took a wierd twist. On the fourth day my ex ignored my text, and her friend told me that my ex told her that she ignored it purposley, and that i started talking to her again out of nowhere, and that i always text and call her. When the truth is the exact opposite. When i found out i told my ex to stop playing games, and if she was going to talk to talk me than it should be mature.

 

I made out with this girl the same day, and it turns out my ex knew her. So my ex got really pissed of. It doesnt really make sense because she had just basically played me, and she had made out with someone since the breakup too. So my ex bad mouths me like crazy to all her friends and my friends. I let my emotions get the best of me, and sent her a really nasty text, calling her names, twlling her to leave me alone etc.

 

She came up to me and my friends one day and made me look like a fool by repeting the things that i said in the text message. It was obvious that i hurt her so i did the right thing and apologized. I really feel bad about sending that text, even though she has hurt me so much.

 

I hadnt talked to her in 2 and a half weeks, until I found out that she had liked someone else, and was most likely going to go out with him. I broke the NC and text her just seeing how she was doing. She didnt respond.

 

Its been almost a week since than, and my question is what is the most effective way of handling things if they do decide to go out? I m not desperate for her, but I am not completley over her just yet. I want to act the right way so I dont dig myself a deeper hole..... any advice besides just move on and compltley forget about her, unless that is a good way to get her back. I know I cant force her to come back but there must be things I can do to brighten my chances..