pelicanpreacher Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 Like I told you way back when...He's nowhere near through with you and something wicked this way comes!
Author xxxheartbrokenxxx Posted November 30, 2008 Author Posted November 30, 2008 He probably didn't answer you because his wife is back. Hopefully she didn't stumble on that message. Don't beat yourself up too much about what you did - we've all acted like dimwits where passion is concerned, so no need to feel like the Lone Ranger. I'm like 99.999999% certain that you'll hear from him. This is probably part of the game - to get you to sweat a little so that you leap for joy when he graces you with a call. If you must say anything to him, then tell him that you regret sending the text, that you had a temporary lapse in judgement and realize now that it's better to keep things as they were. Urgh I still cannot believe he actually had the audacity to call me out of the blue hoping to hook up after he walked out of my life 4 months ago and left me in alot of emotional agony. If he dares to call again I will definately tell him to just get stuffed and that I sent the message to test him. I think he is a very evil man for what he has willingly put me through, and I was doing so well moving forward with my life and wont allow him to put me back in that terrible place I was in until very recently. It was getting it on with a guy a had been friends with for a while that ultimately helped me get over the MM situation. For the last few weeks Ive been thinking about the new guy more than the MM and did hope something more would come of it but no cigar unfortunately, new guy said he has too many issues at the moment to get involved with anyone. I am very upset about it, after the MM situation I thought I would never love again but this guy made me realize its possible. If we had got together properly I could have completely moved on.
Author xxxheartbrokenxxx Posted November 30, 2008 Author Posted November 30, 2008 Like I told you way back when...He's nowhere near through with you and something wicked this way comes! Yes and you were so right!!!
wildsoul Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 ... after the MM situation I thought I would never love again but this guy made me realize its possible. Good for you! It wasn't a home run, but you're back in the game. You might have to change your user name to xxxheartworkingjustgreatxxx!
Author xxxheartbrokenxxx Posted November 30, 2008 Author Posted November 30, 2008 Good for you! It wasn't a home run, but you're back in the game. You might have to change your user name to xxxheartworkingjustgreatxxx! Yeah its definately a step forward! :laugh: At least this guy was single and more my own age. And yes I need to think about changing my user name now!
Annie Fo Fannie Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 Don't talk to him . Don't return his calls. It's just the sick cycle starting again...
SierraRose Posted December 1, 2008 Posted December 1, 2008 He called, and threw the hook out by telling you his wife was out of town. You didn't take the bait by offering to get together - he wanted YOU to put yourself on the line, not him. So, he's moved on, probably made some more calls to see if any other woman he's hooked up with before would be open to some short-term-wifey-out-of-town action. What he didn't do was call because he loves you and is divorcing his wife to be with you. Please be clear about that. My thoughts exactly...
Purple_me Posted December 2, 2008 Posted December 2, 2008 Hi HB, I'm pretty new in here, but been lurking a lot. I just took the time to read all your story and I'm REALLY surprised to see it's very similar to mine. I mean about the NC thing. He also said he'd call that very same night, and he never did... although I didn't try to reach him either (I was always the one to give the first step whenever things got bad and also told him that was going to end someday). We've been NC since November 4th and I just found some pics of him having fun and that kind of things (obviously that drove me crazy). We've never broke the NC, and I don't plan to do it, although EVERYBODY keeps telling me he'll contact me eventually. Some days I wonder what I'm more afraid of: of his call, of he never calling me again. I do need closure, I have thousands of questions to ask... but after seeing your story, I think I'll never get honest answers to those questions, so I should stop wasting my time (easier said than done, I know!) I write to ask you if you finally moved out of that town? You once said there was a plan of you moving out to go away... did you do it? I'm thinking about the same thing, I'm not working right now (don't ask... yeap, I resign because I was moving out of my town to be with him) and I'm looking for a new one with the economy going crazy, is very hard. But also I'm very afraid of taking such a big decision in such a bad shape... Well I hope things are going better... we do need to get REALLY ANGRY before moving on, right? Oh I did want to say something about your situation. You keep saying you don't call or write because of the consecuences it might have with his wife. Let me tell you, if you REALLY need to send him to hell, don't wait until he contacts you again. He never EVER thought of the consequences in your life whenever he did or said things to you... then why should you think of the consequences in his life? I know, easier said than done, I found out my man was married AFTER he left me 2 days before traveling to see him... out of no where. And never thought of contacting his wife, although now I have to accept that I might seek for the answers in her and not in him... time will tell, I'm too good to really do that, I just fantasy about it LOL... Hope you get better, you deserve that, you know? Purple.
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