dabears Posted November 24, 2008 Posted November 24, 2008 Hello all, I would appreciate any feedback! I have been hanging out with this girl for a few months now. We have gotten along great!..After the the first couple months I asked her about taking what we have to the next level. Just see where it goes. She told me that she is not wanting to start any kind of commitment until she moves out on her own and away from her parents. I guess i get a little down that she does not want to be with me, because I think if both people liked each other enough, they would try it out and see what could happen. I have so many times wanted to tell her that I just cant deal with this anymore, I have given more feelings to her than I feel like i have received. Granted I know living at home, does not make everything that easy. She does call me everyday, most of the time we talk when she gets home from work, and then she will call before she goes to bed. We hang out about 3-4 times a week at her place, go out to eat, movies, dinner, etc...And it seems like everytime we drink, when we get back our situation gets brought up, such as what are we, what should we do, she says that I am not wasting my time with her. When we were at a bar, she got mad at me, because she said I was trying to make her jealous(which I was not), because I was talking with my old high school friends that happened to be girls.. She knows I like her, and she says it back, but it is so frustrating to give my feelings and not know why she doesnt seem to commit. I guess she would not call or hang out if she didnt like me. I am a patient guy but I can only wait so long!.. She also tells me that she has no interest in anyone else, and gets upset when i bring that up, but i cant help it because to me that is a good reason not to commit.
PrincessPeach Posted November 24, 2008 Posted November 24, 2008 Why worry about what will or could be if you can just enjoy what you have? It will get there if it's supposed to get there. Have you actually DONE anything to advance a relationship other than talking about it? Girls don't want to talk about it before anything develops, they want it to develop first and then talk about it when things are more serious. Have you made a move at all? Have you gone in to kiss her or anything that SHOWS you like her yet. Actions are stronger than words. If you do go in for a kiss and she rejects it, then it's likely she doesn't like you as anything more than a friend. If you want to be more than her friend you have to actually do something to back that up. Once you do things will move forward without you having to "talk about it." Love and attraction are spontaneous things. Talking about this is not spontaneous, it's thought out and calculated.
Author dabears Posted November 25, 2008 Author Posted November 25, 2008 I agree...and maybe i just look into things way to much...as for actions...i.(we) have def. rounded the bases
PrincessPeach Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 She probably just doesn't move as quickly as you do. Be patient and she will come around on her own. Give her time.
Author dabears Posted November 25, 2008 Author Posted November 25, 2008 Thats what I want to think...I just over analyze and look to far into things i think!....I guess she would not call if she did not want to, she would not make her self availible if she did not want to...There is def. tension between us because we dont really understand...But she knows how i feel, and thats all I can do! She has told me numerous times that I am not wasting my time, because I am upfront and ask her, where our thing might go...I just need to sit back and go with the flow!
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