MichiganMan222 Posted November 24, 2008 Posted November 24, 2008 After about a month of NC, I get an email simply titled 'U there?'. I respond 'here' She responds 'I'm calling you in a few minutes' I have no idea WTF... She calls and said she heard thru a mutual friend that I was seeing the person that she always accused me of having a thing for while we were together (both untrue). She went nuts screaming at me. I explained that none of it was true and what does she care anyway (she emotionally cheated on my for 3 months and then dumped me; days later began dating the guy). Then she declared she and he were talking marriage (this to get even with me for 'hurting her' with this news of the rumor). I had just started getting over her. The marriage thing took me aback. However, its not bugging me like I thought. I did complain to her how rotten it was to say something like that as all I was doing was living my life and moving on from being dumped. I asked why she would do such a hurtful thing to me...just before the holidays even. I kept saying how terrible that was. She finally back-pedalled and said 'there is no ring on her finger' and she just said that to upset me to 'get even for being hurt herself'. I finished by warning her she better not let her new bf find out she still has a hang-up about me dating or it will hurt her new relationship. The phone call went on a little more calmly and then ended. She followed up with an email apologizing for calling and said she shouldn't be upset, but she can't just erase the love, pain and memories like that. I responded and said don't worry about it and reminded her that she is the only one that brought a third party into the relationship and I was in it for her and only her. This was really a surprise to me. Not a peep for a month. She is on her way with this new guy and then she gets upset over rumors. I suspect this isn't the last I hear. Funny thing is, this doesn't sting at all like I thought. I honestly was angry at her for stirring up feelings again, but it didn't happen. Maybe I'm better along that I thought. What do you guys think of this? Did I handle it correctly?
2sure Posted November 24, 2008 Posted November 24, 2008 Wow. You need no advice. You handled it not only correctly, but as a gentleman...no spite. And yes, she sounds like she will be back for more. If the rumor of you with someone else sets her off... Time heals doesnt it?
ConfusedAtHome Posted November 24, 2008 Posted November 24, 2008 That's great MM! I agree with 2sure...you were classy and gentlemanly.
Author MichiganMan222 Posted November 24, 2008 Author Posted November 24, 2008 Thank you. And yes I could've hurt her by telling her what I was REALLY doing. A promising looming romance from one of many dates I've been on, and a temporary FWB situation with someone else (about to end if the romance pans out). But she had just mentioned that the thought of me being with someone else still hurts her terribly. I didn't want to get into a pissing contest with her because I didn't want to hear anything from her side and I just wanted the call to end and continue on with NC. She even told me she had some of my clothes still in her car (a shirt and two pair of underwear). Offered to bring them to me. I told her to keep them. I don't want to see her at all. I think this offended her, which wasn't my intention; I meant it. I'll keep you posted on if I get anything more.
EmperorR Posted November 24, 2008 Posted November 24, 2008 Wow so she dumped you be a new man but your not suppose to be dating?
stoneymirror Posted November 24, 2008 Posted November 24, 2008 She sounds like a psychopath, I'd stay clear from her. I wouldn't ever pick up or call her again. Sounds like you already moved on so no need to go backwards.
Sysyphus28 Posted November 24, 2008 Posted November 24, 2008 Thank you. And yes I could've hurt her by telling her what I was REALLY doing. A promising looming romance from one of many dates I've been on, and a temporary FWB situation with someone else (about to end if the romance pans out). But she had just mentioned that the thought of me being with someone else still hurts her terribly. I didn't want to get into a pissing contest with her because I didn't want to hear anything from her side and I just wanted the call to end and continue on with NC. She even told me she had some of my clothes still in her car (a shirt and two pair of underwear). Offered to bring them to me. I told her to keep them. I don't want to see her at all. I think this offended her, which wasn't my intention; I meant it. I'll keep you posted on if I get anything more. Tell her she can keep your underwear!! Ignore them and move on and now your the bad guy............. HAHAHAHHAHAHAH.. You can't win. But you did my freind. You are the winner here. Kudos.
spupwc Posted November 24, 2008 Posted November 24, 2008 she sounds like my ex, wish i wuda handled it better like you did
BCCA Posted November 24, 2008 Posted November 24, 2008 Tell her she can keep your underwear!! Ignore them and move on and now your the bad guy............. HAHAHAHHAHAHAH.. You can't win. But you did my freind. You are the winner here. Kudos. My thoughts exactly. She seemed to be looking for justification for being such a witch to you. If you were in fact now seeing this girl, she would feel vindicated, like she had no choice but to do what she did. Next time, erase that email and dont answer her calls.
Author MichiganMan222 Posted November 25, 2008 Author Posted November 25, 2008 Thanks, gang. Had she done this 3 weeks ago, I would've been ugly for me. I appreciate your words. I'm actually very curious to see if she approaches me again. I almost have a feeling SHE is going backwards. I hope not, because she could cause problems with the possibilities I have coming if she starts harassing me. No one likes a psycho ex.
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