DTK Posted November 24, 2008 Posted November 24, 2008 Okay, I am new to this forum and would like to see what people's opinions are of my current situation. I have been dating this girl for 5 months now and we are very serious, I am 26 and she is 28. Going into the relationship I was a virgin and have since lost it to her. She has been with others in her past. Maybe I am just being paranoid and such, but she dated a guy 3 years before she met me for 7 years and also lived with him and was engaged to him before he cheated on her and she broke his ribs and broke up. The part that I am jealous of though is not about her relationship with him, it's more the relationship she had with his kids. She is almost always talking about past experiences she had with those kids and how important they were in her life. And when she does that I kinda associate that with her talking about how important that whole relationship was in her life as she pretty much considered those her kids even though they biologically aren't. I feel like with how much she talks about it that I could never compare to this relationship and I am always going to be considered second best. I have confronted her about this and she just does not seem to understand why I would be jealous of this and she thinks I am being childish whenever I bring it up. I am madly in love with this girl and this is the only flaw I find in the relationship, everything else is 100% perfect and I don't want to ruin it over her past but feel I need some type of resolution in this. Can anyone help? DK PS-Should of titled the post Jealous of my girlfriend's past with ex... sorry
OnTheEdge Posted November 24, 2008 Posted November 24, 2008 why are u jealous of this ? :s she has a bond with the children like most people would of...
Author DTK Posted November 24, 2008 Author Posted November 24, 2008 The reason I have a jealousy about this is because the kids were her ex's and I associate every time she talks about those kids as being her talking about her past relationship and how much better it was having them with her than being with me.
OnTheEdge Posted November 24, 2008 Posted November 24, 2008 u have to realise that its not a competition... the relationship between you and her is different from the relationship she has with the children dont let something like this ruin your relationship...trust me you will regret it
Author DTK Posted November 24, 2008 Author Posted November 24, 2008 Thank you for your input. I do agree that it would be horrible to ruin my relationship for this reason because I really do love this girl a lot. I am just going to look at it as being in the past and move on.
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