2sure Posted December 2, 2008 Posted December 2, 2008 I am infuriated with your MM. What really got me is that he is STILL trying to throw you tidbits hoping you will once again be patient and understanding. As if telling his son he loves you would be a compromise to actually acting like he loves you. As if by telling you he and his wife arent making progress, that "See?? I'm not the bad guy here - you could, technically, still harbor some hope." I am infuriated for you.
Author Spinning Head Posted December 2, 2008 Author Posted December 2, 2008 Throwing tidbits of hope has become more frequent. I received a text from xMM that was a reply to one I sent to him wherein I stated to xMM that he needed to work on his M since he had decided to stay in his M - his reply was "Let's not go there . . .You really don't want to believe that? Somewhere in your heart is still hope?" Every day I get an "I love you" text from xMM, including an "I love you. Sweet dreams." text at night.
2sure Posted December 2, 2008 Posted December 2, 2008 I know that you have feelings for this man. I know that this was/is a real relationship in spite of the circumstances. I'm sure he has feelings for you too. There is no need to belittle any of that. But the continued tidbits! He sincerely seems to think that , not only that you should, but that you will , be happy with the words, the texts. That you will say : OK. Yepper. This is what I deserve. He is SO wonderful that I am satisfied with scraps. I'm not sure why...I dont know you, and I'm just a little black dress here...but I am really pissed. I feel like this man has dissed women in general.
Author Spinning Head Posted December 3, 2008 Author Posted December 3, 2008 XMM flew out of state today for a business meeting - a jaunt wherein you leave early in the morning then return late at night. XMM contacted me last night and asked me to meet him at the airport at 11:30 PM tonight so we could spend the night together. I live three hours from the airport. Let's see, I am to meet him at 11:30 PM at an airport that is three hours away so that I can spend the night with him in that city then be back at my office by 8:30 AM?! WTF? When I told XMM that I could not do that, XMM is considering coming to my house tomorrow night to see me. And, XMM stated that he MIGHT bring a suitcase with him to stay with me forever. I know that he will not show up. I am going out of town for four days, which he knows, so why would he choose now? I am at the point wherein I don't believe anything that XMM states to me. There is such a pattern to his statements and empty promises. I asked XMM yesterday if he ever followed through with anything he ever said or promised. Dead silence was my response.
Agent_99 Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 I know that you need to follow this through for some reason. Believe me I've been there. I couldn't go NC with MW. Even though A has been over for a while (I've never really counted) We still aren't complete NC. We probably never will be. But the point is I'M OKAY. But she doesn't play with my head the way this guy does. This guy reminds me of an uncle that lives in Alaska. He is a compulsive lier, as well as many other not so politically correct terms. The thing is, as someone on the recieving end of his lies, he truly beleives them when he states them. I'm guessing your xMM doesn't know who he is, he just likes who he is in the eyes of his wife, and in your eyes. He likes both people he sees reflected back. That is why he avoids anything that conflicts with the way he now wants you to see him. And why he can't make a choice. One possiblity. ~99
IfWishesWereHorses Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 asked XMM yesterday if he ever followed through with anything he ever said or promised. Dead silence was my response. I'm guessing reality is not his friend. He wants to be mirrored. To have someone jump through hoops for him. If not you then someone else. HE NEEDS this to feel worth while. What do you need???
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