Jolie76 Posted November 24, 2008 Posted November 24, 2008 I went two weeks without looking on the guy I love myspace profile till just now though nothing was changed or any new comments i still feel bad. I haven't been hearing from him in a while and wanted to see if he was online lately. He was today so I guess he's avoiding me or something. Im so ashamed of myself. How could I break my own rule, I was so strong. Now I feel like crying cuz I looked.
lofi_tokyo Posted November 24, 2008 Posted November 24, 2008 The last time you laid claim to checking his profile was the 17th. Today is the 23rd. So thats 6 days of NC. Not two weeks. I think the first thing you need to do is start being honest with yourself about your healing. If you really want to be strong you need to be realistic about what is happening, rather than exaggerating things. ;p Just a start! I'm sorry you're crying in pain. I had a good one of those today too. You'll get better, we all do. Just learn from your mistakes and stop looking at his myspace. You started a thread about the traps in doing so, didn't you? Healing is about learning. You've gotta start doing that! Also you say you feel like crying because you looked. I suspect you are crying more so because you are heart broken. ;p You need to try and express yourself more accurately if you want to heal (just my opinion), that way you can get to the root of your hurt and fix it.
TeaAbraham Posted November 24, 2008 Posted November 24, 2008 It's best not to know! Then you can assume whatever makes you feel best! Now you know that it doesn't really make you feel better, don't worry. You won't do it again. I am really glad none of the involved parties in my situation use myspace or facebook. I can imagine the urge is pretty intense. No doubt I would have given in too. But now you know it's not all it's cracked up to be.
Vince Black Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 First...don't be so hard on your self 2nd....you slipped a little, no big deal Get right back on that bus and start again the urge will come again and you may slip again....no biggie....one day you will look back and not even care Take care of yourself....the whole deal begins with you. Be. Do. Have.
Islandgirl03 Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 Don't be ashamed. We all have setbacks. Take it one day at a time and be happy with every day that you don't check. My ex deleted both his myspace and facebook accounts after breaking up with me . I can't believe I'm saying this but I actually started checking his friends pages to see if he'd joined back up again! Fortunately, I haven't done that in a while now. I still want to sometimes, even though i don't really know why. What am I expecting? Is it going to hurt me more to see that he's opened an account again, probably, so why do that to myself? That's what I remind myself now when I am tempted. Why do that to myself.
Sysyphus28 Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 It's best not to know! Then you can assume whatever makes you feel best! Now you know that it doesn't really make you feel better, don't worry. You won't do it again. I am really glad none of the involved parties in my situation use myspace or facebook. I can imagine the urge is pretty intense. No doubt I would have given in too. But now you know it's not all it's cracked up to be. It is best not to know, then you can assume whatever makes you feel best. SERIOUSLY. WHO GIVES A RATS BEHIND WHAT THEY ARE UP TO. IT IS SO IRRELEVANT TO YOU/ME/US NOW. WOW. It is so hard to completely ween this person away. Love is powerful, but so is our sense of self and our inner strength. Keep the support coming. Question: My freinds are having a gathering thanksgiving, the X will be thier, SHould I go? IS it smarter to not go.........for my sanity?
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