kashmir Posted November 24, 2008 Posted November 24, 2008 You're a woman. You see a guy you find attractive. You eye him and even smile at him when he makes eye contact. He never approaches you, but you make eye contact with him numerous times. It's not like he's not standing alone in a corner shyly looking at you either. He's talking with other guys, laughing, and having a good time. Do you assume he's not interested? Do you lose attraction after a certain amount of time? If so, is it to avoid the hurt of wanting someone you're convinced doesn't want you, or is it because you think he's a wuss? Same goes for situations that go over a longer span of time. You periodically see a guy you like and you might even say hi to one another or make small talk, but he never asks you out. Do you assume he's just being friendly? I ask these questions because I'm totally oblivious when it comes to realizing girls' interest. I'm convinced every girl I meet or see is either just being friendly or is trying to lead me on for her own amusement. Thus, when I'm at a party or something, I'll just forget girls and have fun and talk to everyone. I'll see girls looking at me but I think nothing of it. Then later, whether it be an hour, days, or weeks, I'll think back and say, "Hmm, I think that girl liked me." By that time though, if I ever see that girl again, she pays no attention to me. Is it too late by that point?
alphamale Posted November 24, 2008 Posted November 24, 2008 Do you assume he's not interested? they assume he's either not interested, has a gf/married or is gay... Do you lose attraction after a certain amount of time? if it doesn't progress to the next level of course they do If so, is it to avoid the hurt of wanting someone you're convinced doesn't want you, or is it because you think he's a wuss? probably a bit of both... Same goes for situations that go over a longer span of time. You periodically see a guy you like and you might even say hi to one another or make small talk, but he never asks you out. Do you assume he's just being friendly? the man is supposed to take the risk to ask her out...if he doesn't make the "move" then of course she would think he's just being friendly... I ask these questions because I'm totally oblivious when it comes to realizing girls' interest. women's non verbal sexual body language is pretty much universal. there are many good books on sexual body language and they are spot on. the key is to observe and use your eyeballs. a smile, multiple eye contacts, playing with hair or necklace, feet pointed towards you, showing her palm or neck in your direction, seperating herself from her group so you can come over, etc...
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