angeleyez346 Posted November 24, 2008 Posted November 24, 2008 Hello-I am a Hindu 28 year old single girl who just got her heartbroken. I was dating a 25 year old Hindu boy and unfortunately, it is frowned upon in my culture for a younger guy to date an older woman. The relationship was going so well until his mother made him break up with me since she feels that there is something wrong with me since I am 28 and unmarried. Because he runs the family business, she threatened to close the business and make him move back to his hometown if he continued to see me. Initially, he was fighting for me but was so exhausted from hearing his mother threaten him everyday, we broke up. We decided to sneak around for a little bit but his brother caught us and that was it. He begged his mom to at least meet me but she said that she doesn't want to waste her time since he is to marry who she tells him to. She is so controlling and he is so scared to stand up to her. yes, i know he needs to have the guts to fight for me but he's so scared. I always said to myself that I never was going to fall in love but I actually did with the most perfect partner. I pray to God that he will have the strength to speak to his mom or if she could find it in her heart not to hold my age against me. Apparently, thats the only reason why she doesn't want her son seeing me. People who have been through this, can you advise me on how we can stand up to his mother so she can at least give me a chance without passing judgement prior to meeting me? Or, any advice for a broken heart? I feel that my life and heart is so empty without him. We have been apart for 3 weeks and it kills me more and more everyday. I know it hurts him too, but he's not that emotional-being a guy that is. Please advise-I am in so much pain. Thanks for reading.
signedin2008 Posted November 24, 2008 Posted November 24, 2008 Where (country, state) do you live now?
whichwayisup Posted November 24, 2008 Posted November 24, 2008 it is frowned upon in my culture for a younger guy to date an older woman. Try not to totally blame his mom - It's your culture and belief system that is the problem. Yes, she could get to know you and even like you, but if what you say is true, that it's frowned upon due to Religion and culture, then there's no way his mom and family will accept you, in fears of being shunned in their community. Sadly it seems this guy isn't willing to give up his life, his family, to be with you.
Annie9 Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 Its all again the problem with Ur BF... one has to be firm and strong when its a true love for the other person.I had been in the same situation last year at the same time and had really seen the worst part of life and all because he lack guts to speak in front of his parents and the most worst part is he took the side of his parents instead of our love to withdraw from the relation.. after being together for 8 years and was living together for 1year and 3 months...!!! but I did felt the same what u are feeling now and luckily my parents stood by me in that bad time of my life and with the help of few friend who contacted his relatives... and made this possible that we are together again but yes that love and trust is internally faded in me for him. they are also business people and nothing seem important to them than profits no matter its in relations... my parents has done so much for my happiness that i can't imagine these even worth it.after all this still he has not realised what love means!I was treated bad by his parents and sisters and he try to make me understand that i have to adjust and still have a smile on my face.I feel strongly that do not go ahead and ruin ur life with a person who can not boldly accept u in his life.U would find a better person than him trust me or even staying alone throughout life would be better with ur self respect than pleading for love from a person who don't have individuality and shift with what is convenient for them.
Annie9 Posted December 4, 2008 Posted December 4, 2008 pleasae suggest me if you find i am wrong with what i stated as i have this wound very fresh in heart i am unable to come out of it.
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