It all makes me so sad

[EmperorR]

Wow surfer my ex was the same, only time she initiated contact was to ask how can if a guy likes you, if I knew how to use a certain program, etc

 

F being friends, myex cheated lied to me and is with someone knew why the hell would I want to be friends with someone who diarespects me

[Sysyphus28]

And there is no point salvaging it. They dump you and kick you out of their life for someone else. Why would you try to be their friend? To give them free unconditional emotional support when they are in periods between relationships? So that they can give you strings of hope enough to keep you in their life, yet not nearly enough for you to be a significant part of their life?

 

When it comes to post-relationship friendships, dumper always holds the higher ground. They make demands, they create conditions that you have to fulfill in order to stay in their life.

 

Between my breakup and beginning of NC period, I initiated contact with my ex several dozen times while she did only 3 times. This is what she wanted those three times:

 

1. She was rejected by some guys in her dorm, because she was whoring herself around before that, and guys lost trust in her. She needed emotional support from me to make herself feel better.

 

2. She needed my help downloading some movie from bittorrent.

 

3. Wanted me to teach her native language of her new bf, so that she could surprise him.

 

I hope that everyone realizes how crappy and useless these "friendships" are. They are literally one way friendships, where we do all the giving and they do all the taking!

 

Crappy and useless.

Bittorrent downloading...........that's a laughable thing to call you about.

 

Here is what my ex called about.

 

1. She wanted to tell me she wanted her air condtioner I have in the basement because she bought it.

2. She wants 100 bucks that she lent me 8 months ago before she went away on her cheating frenzy in NY.

3. A mutal friend was in town that she didn't know how to entertain, she asked me to come along while they went out for beers

 

 

*** All selfish bulls***.

[4by4]

Spot on! F the Bullsh** friendship.

 

My ex kept telling me she still loved me as a friend and cared about me. Yet she doesn't want me back, she tells me she needs to be single in order to enjoy herself. The best i could get from her was that she might reconsider her position in a year.

 

F that. Why would I stick around for 12 months , give her emotional support, drive her to places she needs to go and do all these favours for nothing in return.

 

Nothing changes the afct she doesn't want you back, the quicker you move on the better. You will find the girl who appreciates you for who you are.

[alwayssme]

this is why i love loveshack..whenever i feel liek nobody understands me, i come here and see people feeling how i'm feeling...great advice guys...i guess it hurts for awhile but it lessens with time.