cherryade Posted November 23, 2008 Posted November 23, 2008 Been split up from my BF for 3 weeks now - mostly NC the whole time. Thought I was actually getting somewhere and today went for lunch with an old school friend - just to catch up, nothing romantic. We had a nice time. But now that I'm home, I can't stop thinking about my ex. I really miss him, such physical pain. He has hurt me so much, but I can't bear to think of him with his new GF, and I want him back so badly. I was trying to kid myself that she doesn't really want him and he'll come back to me... I want to get him back. I know no-one can make the hurt go away, I just needed to post. Sorry.
lofi_tokyo Posted November 23, 2008 Posted November 23, 2008 I'm struggling with the same kind of pain Cherry... nearly 3 months after the fact. Being left for someone else hurts. Especially in a LDR because... having a normal relationship is always preferable to a LDR. In some ways I just feel so powerless. If I had been closer, there is no doubt in my mind my ex and I would still be together. It tears me up. ;p
Author cherryade Posted November 23, 2008 Author Posted November 23, 2008 I know if there was some quick fix to get him back we'd all be doing it. I honestly feel we're victims of circumstance, and it's such a waste. But the circumstances led to things that mean it can never be fixed. I really wouldnt object to being struck by lightening right now.
alwayssme Posted November 23, 2008 Posted November 23, 2008 Cherry, i'm sorry to hear you're hurting...but i think it's normal for everyone whos HUMAN and has feelings to hurt when someone you love leaves you. It's been 3 months for me and it still hurts me. Of course it's not as bad as it was at first but u know it still hurts and i still miss him, because i truly fell in love with him. I know there is no way to take the pain away but at least know that you are not alone in this, as u can see there is so many of us dealing with our own break-ups. I can't even describe how I feel because me and my ex had one of those relationships that I had wanted all my life, i swear even before I met him i had ALWAYS wanted a guy just like him and when I found him, it was the happiest two years of my life. I can't even tell you how beautiful and loved he made me feel. I thought I was going to be with him forever...I know I'm young and it may sound naive but I truly loved him and still do. Everytime I think of how we were, it's unbelievable to how we are now. I look back at my mistakes and cry because "what if i had done things different". He walked away and never came back, even after me crying and him crying because although he wanted to leave, it was still hard to let go. But now 3 months later he has moved on, he says he doesn't have anyone but after lying to me about a couple things I'm not even sure I believe him. I don't know what happened between you and your ex, but I know how it hurts to lose the one you love. We're here for you! Stay strong!
sedgwick Posted November 23, 2008 Posted November 23, 2008 It's been three weeks. You're not supposed to be healed yet, let alone getting into a new relationship. Give yourself a break!
Author cherryade Posted November 23, 2008 Author Posted November 23, 2008 I'm not trying to get into a new relationship. I couldn't possibly. But I want my old relationship back. I want him to realise what we had, cos I don't think he did. He has it so easy. I want to at least be missed.
TeaAbraham Posted November 23, 2008 Posted November 23, 2008 I know if there was some quick fix to get him back we'd all be doing it. I honestly feel we're victims of circumstance, and it's such a waste. But the circumstances led to things that mean it can never be fixed. I really wouldnt object to being struck by lightening right now. That's the devlish part. Thinking it wasn't either of you necessarily, it was something beyond your control, so it's hard to remedy something you don't have any control over. I understand how that helplessness makes you feel like that. But sedgewick is right! you're not going to feel completely healed yet. It takes time. But don't kid yourself that your ex is Mr. perfect. Don't put him up on that pedestol! He really isn't.
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