MitchRapp Posted November 23, 2008 Posted November 23, 2008 So I am currently on day 16 of NC, last night, out of the blue, I got this email from my ex. What do you make of it? What should my next move be? Should I bother to say anything back at all? Thanks! Hey (NAME CENSORED), Just wanted to let you know, I do not hate you. I'm so focused on school and horses, I refuse to let anything get in the way of it. I've been writing 3 essays for the Governor Scholar Application and keeping up with my regular school work. I'm determined to give showing 110% and riding Windd [her horse] has become more than 'just riding' its training and training hard. School is hard (as you know) and I just want to be able to give it my all. All the choices and decisions I make now, are going to affect the rest of my life. Others can judge how I live and thats fine, but all that matters is that I know I'm doing my best. I don't want you to be upset, mad, or angry. I don't blame you for any of the barn stuff. I really don't. They are all weird anyways and despise me simply because I know how to ride. I don't really care what they think anymore. Riding is my life and I won't ever throw it away because of what some people say. So yeah, I'm not mad and hope you aren't either. Hope you are doing okay. (NAME CENSORED)
spupwc Posted November 23, 2008 Posted November 23, 2008 sounds to me she's trying to get rid of some guilt from the breakup...if she really loves u she wouln't put horses before u in my opinion.... do no contact and don't let her try to reel u in and keep u on stand by... maybe in time she will rethink things and start missing u, if not, at least ur a little closer to healing n moving on...
Hersheys Posted November 23, 2008 Posted November 23, 2008 Wish her well and then resume strict NC. BUT if I were you, I will not respond at all. There's a condescending tone to her email that puts you way below her list of priorities. You don't need that. Responding to her will only set you back on your healing.
TeaAbraham Posted November 23, 2008 Posted November 23, 2008 This email seems to be mainly about her to make herself feel better. Maybe she is trying to make you feel better by letting you know her thought processes. But if she's so busy with all of these things anyway, what's the point of sending her anything back?
mm4184 Posted November 24, 2008 Posted November 24, 2008 sounds like my ex boyfriend. and i think it's more of them letting you know that they do care but that there are other priorities in their life that they want to pursue and we just don't fit in the picture or things just didn't work out. and basically, it's just making sure you know that they're just doing what they have to do and that's look out for themselves for now which we should try to do as well. it hurts a lot but you just can't see that and overanalyze like i did and think they're trying to break the NC. they just want to know you're ok and not feel guilty for the break up. does anyone else think this? i'm trying to tell myself that haha
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