savvy_girl Posted November 23, 2008 Posted November 23, 2008 :confused:Hi- I am new to this board. Long story short-dating for 4 yrs, engaged, he ended it, due to cheating(which I was unaware of), now tells me he loves me but is too hurt by our past to try again, just lied to me about being away w/ new gf (after his mother told me they were getting engaged!), and still maintains he is taking a break from all women. It has been over a year that we originally broke up. After all of the lies & hurt, I have to go NC. I am having a heard time dealing w/ his lies. He has no reason to lie to me. What is strange is 2 yrs ago, when we were together, I was very distant from him, I was unsure, but when he ended it, I just wanted him more. He is 46, I am 44, his new gf is 31. He still lives w/ his mother, never went away to college(commuted to college), he used to be extremely sweeet to me, now is mean. He refuses to see me face to face. I know I do not deserve this, and am better off with out him. I just need some help. I am in therapy, and am OK after I go, but the other 6 days of the week are hard and I want to call him. I guess I just miss talking to him as we used to talk everyday for hours. Please give me advice? I am losing it. Pleas help me.
Geishawhelk Posted November 23, 2008 Posted November 23, 2008 You're not ok after therapy, because the effect should be lasting, not temporary. You're having problems letting go, and this is something you should discuss with your therapist. Whatever you're doing - it ain't working.
Author savvy_girl Posted November 23, 2008 Author Posted November 23, 2008 Why am I having a problem letting go? I know the answer is within me, but I do not know why. He is with another person, will not try with me, etc. I know I have to let go, I feel so pathetic.
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