Jamez123 Posted November 23, 2008 Posted November 23, 2008 Since my girlfriend of a year who i once meant the world to dumped me two months ago due to my terrible moods in the last two months due to severe depression, i've not been able to keep a week of NC unfortunately. I've sent her pathetic texts like 'i really miss you', i've sent her hundreds of pathetic e-mails saying i'm so sorry for everything, i've changed, etc. I phoned her quite a bit after the breakup, begging and pleading her to at least consider me. I couldn't help it, i loved her too much and i had no clue what to do. She now says she'll 'never take me back' and 'she doens't even want to be mates with me anymore coz i'm so annoying'. this was during yet another pathetic convo over msn on friday night, when i was like 'why won't you take me back', why do you say never?' i siad that quite a few times. She said to me aswell 'you've changed it now, because you won't shut up' when i asked her why she doesn't want me again. It seems as though i might have had another chacne if i hadn't've been so extremely persistant. What can i do now? I really don't wanna let her go but i guess i'll have to if i've pushed her away forever . .
madgun68 Posted November 23, 2008 Posted November 23, 2008 Since my girlfriend of a year who i once meant the world to dumped me two months ago due to my terrible moods in the last two months due to severe depression, i've not been able to keep a week of NC unfortunately. I've sent her pathetic texts like 'i really miss you', i've sent her hundreds of pathetic e-mails saying i'm so sorry for everything, i've changed, etc. I phoned her quite a bit after the breakup, begging and pleading her to at least consider me. I couldn't help it, i loved her too much and i had no clue what to do. She now says she'll 'never take me back' and 'she doens't even want to be mates with me anymore coz i'm so annoying'. this was during yet another pathetic convo over msn on friday night, when i was like 'why won't you take me back', why do you say never?' i siad that quite a few times. She said to me aswell 'you've changed it now, because you won't shut up' when i asked her why she doesn't want me again. It seems as though i might have had another chacne if i hadn't've been so extremely persistant. What can i do now? I really don't wanna let her go but i guess i'll have to if i've pushed her away forever . . Hey man, You really need to go NC at this point. Partially because you are not in a healthy place right now for a relationship with anyone (including her) but because she needs time to allow her emotions to subside. I would suggest this.. Refrain at all costs from contacting her for at least a couple of weeks. Write her a letter apologizing for your recent actions and let her know that you are giving her space. That you will not contact her but she may contact you again if she chooses to do so. Refrain at all costs from allowing the letter to become emotional. (Keep it short and to the point.) Once you have sent the letter, go back to NC. There really isn't a choice anymore. You really need to heal from this and she needs time to calm down from what has happened. Any attempt to contact her, beyond what I've suggested, is going to most likely be met with the same results as you've recently seen. Always keep this in mind. I'm not going to sugar coat this. This may not be repairable. You need to reconcile with that fact. Even if she does come back, it may not be in the manner that you're hoping for now.
Dmoney28 Posted November 24, 2008 Posted November 24, 2008 i agree with madgun on this one. I did the same thing you did. I begged and pleaded. I asked "please give me another chance, i'll change". The suggestion of the Letter apologizing for the begging and then go NC is txt book strategy. Relaionship juijitsu is what they call it. Using ones negative feelings to deflate thier own negative feelings. People never want to be on the same side of the argument thier ex is on. When she says "leave me alone, you annoying me"...you say "you're right, i have been annoying and not respecting your space. This does two things...1. shows her you respect her feelings....2. Return's and leave a positive situation in her mind......read this post bro. This might be your last chance. But NC is a must for you, no other option at this point. Just make sure to take care of yourself and emotions above anything else first.....make sure you read this....... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t96092/
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