Belle28 Posted November 23, 2008 Posted November 23, 2008 A couple of weeks ago I met this guy on an internet dating website. I was the one who spotted him because I liked his profile and the fact that he enjoyed travelling. I mentioned to him that I would be planning to visit the US and he automatically said he would want to meet up. A couple of days later after chatting regularly I told him I was planning a trip to Scotland so he jumped right in and asked if he could join me. At the time I thought he was just kidding so we started making plans for days and it did not really hit me until I saw that he had actually booked the flight and had asked his superior to take the time off work. Then I started getting anxious - we were talking to each other every day but it would be risky to just go on a trip in two weeks time with a man i met on the internet just two weeks ago. And now this is where I have two problems I am hoping you can help me with. The first is that after the trip to Scotland it appears it would be cheaper for him to take a flight back from my home town so he would stay here for a couple of days. I did not invite him to my place because unfortunately my ex is in between flats and he will be staying here and on top of that my parents are planning to visit. He took it as though I am living with my ex and we're still involved and keeps mentioning it all the time. He was quite direct and told me it would probably be best not to come anymore. I reassured him there wouldnt be a problem and took it as a bit of jealousy or territorialism but what do I even know about men? The second issue is that he told me from the start he was seeing this other woman back in the US. I did not make much of it at first but he is never online during the weekend which would be the time when we could actually have time to plan things a bit better. I mentioned it to him last weekend if he had been with her on a light tone and he answered straight back that he had some things he had to take care of with regards to her so he did spend two nights in her company. He asked me if I had a problem with that and I said no...until today. Its Sunday again and he wasn't online yesterday although he said he would be. Im guessing but I am pretty positive he won't be online today neither...and I think he is with her. Just to let you know - I am not desperate to meet JUST any guy. I could date around right where i live. The adventure and the way he talks to me is quite appealing to me though. I rarely encounter a person that stimulates me so much on an intellectual level and is so honest they can be rude sometimes. He told me that he rather test me before we go on the trip instead of being stuck for a week with a whining girl (Im almost 11 years younger than him). Last but not least, we tried to find a way to spend his bday together. So we are landing in England in order to do so. If this thing with this other woman meant much why would he want to spend his bday with me??? Please help me - I am running out of time to cancel my bookings if needed be!!!
Geishawhelk Posted November 23, 2008 Posted November 23, 2008 I would never do this. Really, I just never would. I get the impression he is steam-rollering you into a situation that to me would be untenable, and backing you into a corner. I would feel threatened by his pushy attitude, tell him the trip is off because you've met this wonderful guy, and thanks but no thanks. Then back off..... But that's just me. ugh.....!
jason83 Posted November 23, 2008 Posted November 23, 2008 Sorry but this whole situation sounds very sketchy to me. I'd cancel the trip.
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