dannydrifter Posted November 23, 2008 Posted November 23, 2008 My stbxf started a LDR while we were married. She apparently fell madly in love with OM. Over LDR, I don't know how this is possible but she did it. Her behavior after the separation is one of total disregard for me and a lot of deep seated anger and resentment towards me. She appears very eager to get divorce proceedings in gear, and she informed me that she and OM are planning to get married. My question is, do women who leave their husband for another man generally have good marriage and success with OM? I am trying to get my head around this situation, wondering if my stbxw really hit the jackpot or if she is just blinded by confusion and anger towards me. I still care for and love her, but there is nothing I can do at this point so I don't bother trying to contact her. She is like a totally different person.
Geishawhelk Posted November 23, 2008 Posted November 23, 2008 It has as much of a chance as yours did. Or as you thought yours did. That's all anyone can say.
sumdude Posted November 23, 2008 Posted November 23, 2008 Who knows, trying to predict her future is a waste of energy.All you can do is accept that she's gone forever. Worrying about what she's doing only gets in the way of doing what you need to do for yourself.
reservoirdog1 Posted November 23, 2008 Posted November 23, 2008 Who knows, trying to predict her future is a waste of energy.All you can do is accept that she's gone forever. Worrying about what she's doing only gets in the way of doing what you need to do for yourself. Easier said than done, but Sumdude is right. It sounds like you don't have kids with her, so you're one of the lucky ones. You never have to see her face again. Your life is a blank slate. Think of all the things you can do. You can travel the world, you can become a completely different person. She's held you back for too long. The world is your oyster. Now, stop reading this, log off, turn off your computer, walk out of the house, and go do something you've never done before. Carpe diem.
dead-dyke Posted November 24, 2008 Posted November 24, 2008 Easier said than done, but Sumdude is right. It sounds like you don't have kids with her, so you're one of the lucky ones. You never have to see her face again. Your life is a blank slate. Think of all the things you can do. You can travel the world, you can become a completely different person. She's held you back for too long. The world is your oyster. Now, stop reading this, log off, turn off your computer, walk out of the house, and go do something you've never done before. Carpe diem. Can you follow me around all day and yell this at me please?
signedin2008 Posted November 24, 2008 Posted November 24, 2008 The answer to your question is less than 3% chance statistically. There are tons of reason behind it such as lack of trust, fantasy expection but then reality hits, etc. etc. You can almost bet on it that their "relationship" will end within 2 years, or at most 5 years if not much much sooner.
norajane Posted November 24, 2008 Posted November 24, 2008 Have they ever met in person or has this LDR been all online?
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