pennyjosix Posted November 23, 2008 Posted November 23, 2008 So this guy & I have been friends for about 3 years now. We haven't been very close until recently because for the majority of those 3 years we both had significant others. We are both single now, but I moved to Tennessee for school & he is in Texas. I'm about to move back to Texas so we'll only be about 4 1/2 hours away from eachother. Anyways, that's not the point. About a month ago we started talking a lot more & we have progressed to just about talking on the phone every day for hours at a time. We haven't really defined our relationship, but we use pet names & he makes comments letting me know he doesn't want me to be with other boys and referencing to the future about things. Because of those different cues couldn't i deduce that things are probably progressing towards a long distance relationship? How do you know when a guy is being genuine?
The LDR-er Posted November 24, 2008 Posted November 24, 2008 well the fact he is making the point that he don't want u with other guys propaly means he likes you LOL:p. but one thing i am not sure abt, is that u said u known him for 3 years, but how often do u see him? cos taking on the phone, internet chatting is often very differnt to the real thing when u guys spend time together in person for real. is always gd to know that u get on well in person before starting a LDR, cos if u r only good on the phone and when it comes to the real meet up is weird then is a weird, as the reunion of a LDR is never wht u expected often the opposite.
Hoosier09 Posted November 25, 2008 Posted November 25, 2008 Ask him you silly goose. The worst thing you can do is beat around the bush. This is kind of what happened with my LDR. I went to the UK ( I live in the US), met her, talked on MSN with her when I returned home for several hours a day...this went on for a month. We experienced the same thing you experienced...hints and stuff like that. I thought I was dropping hints left and right but we were both too shy to say anything. Finally I realized I had to ask and couldn't wonder anymore. I just asked, "Where are we at?" We were right where I thought we were and we are now almost 5 months into our relationship and I actually just returned from visiting her in the UK. The most important thing in a relationship is communication and this is almost 100x more important in an LDR because communication is pretty much all you have. As to what guys mean when they say things and stuff...being a guy I know I can't answer that. It differs from guy to guy. I'm not going to tell you what I think he means because I could never be sure. I do however know that you can trust your gut feeling and there is no harm in defining the relationship. Most of the time, you're right. So go for it. Just ask. If he's the type of guy you're looking for, he won't be scared to talk about it. Good luck with everything
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