EmperorR Posted November 23, 2008 Share Posted November 23, 2008 If your doing it for closure? Link to post Share on other sites
UnamedSeven Posted November 23, 2008 Share Posted November 23, 2008 for closure? yes. It would bring up a conversation of hurtful words being exchanged. I highly wouldn't suggest doing this if you haven't talked to her in a long time. I've been tempted to do the same thing, but i'm willing to show myself how strong i am. Link to post Share on other sites
TeaAbraham Posted November 23, 2008 Share Posted November 23, 2008 I did it. It is really making this NC thing easier, at least for now. Knowing I told her everything I wanted to say on my terms. And that she knows that I love her and how much she's hurt me. You can write it even if you don't send it to her. Link to post Share on other sites
silentcharon Posted November 23, 2008 Share Posted November 23, 2008 Nope. It only begins another vicious cycle- you want her back, right? You use the letter as hope that you'd somehow get the ex to come back. If she did end up maintaining any kind of relationship with you, other than an actual exclusive relationship, you'll never move on. Don't do it. Period. Link to post Share on other sites
lofi_tokyo Posted November 23, 2008 Share Posted November 23, 2008 Nope. It only begins another vicious cycle- you want her back, right? You use the letter as hope that you'd somehow get the ex to come back. If she did end up maintaining any kind of relationship with you, other than an actual exclusive relationship, you'll never move on. Don't do it. Period. Absolutely true. Don't do it. Heres the thing about a letter - its written words. Speaking is one thing, because over time you forget the phrasing, you only remember general facts, and even those fade. You can say something, feel differently the next day, and it will eventually gloss over. When you write, whatever you put down is stuck the way it is. If you phrase something one way because you're upset or hurt or whatever, a few months later when you don't feel the same, those words will still be around. No good! Link to post Share on other sites
foxh1234 Posted November 23, 2008 Share Posted November 23, 2008 No good will come from it, let lying dogs lie. Don't give her anymore of your self respect. Your doing NC so youi can heal, don't break it. Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted November 23, 2008 Share Posted November 23, 2008 I think it can help to put your feelings in writing BUT do not send it. Just write, read it through and put it away. In time you might find that letter and realise how much you have moved on. You might even think how crazy you were to have put so much emotion into something that really was not right for you. Link to post Share on other sites
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