Jordan51 Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 I'm gonna try to get right to the point here to avoid the really long back story. Met a girl 2 years ago we hit it off eventually started going out. I've known my whole life I've had anxiety issues and eventually got diagnosed with social anxiety. I turned into a hermit and would bail on plans with her unless we just hung out at mine or her house. Eventually i felt bad because i was making her cry almost daily because i was really depressed and turned into a hermit so i broke it off with her in August. Anyways she was very very upset and wanted to help me get through this but it just wasn't fair to her. Well eventually I wanted her back and she agreed but two days later confessed to being attracted to another guy and going out with him as "Friends" one day because she was mad at me for bailing. Anyways she said she really wanted to be friends and I agreed but as soon as I saw that she was only interested in talking to me when SHE called I told her to have a nice life. During our last phone convo she said she wanted me to call her after I was done my therapy for my condition in December but we were to have NO CONTACT until then. She said not to delete her phone number or facebook or any of that and to call her so i said fine. Well she ended up deleting me on facebook about a month in and I felt weak at the time and sent her a message which she never responded too. Anyways I think I'm over her now and im pretty sure shes seeing this other guy but she was a really good friend so I wanted to stick to it and call her on her birthday which is a few weeks away. Now heres where my problem stands. I basically want to wish her a happy bday and explain to her in a NICE way that i would like to be friends with her but if she doesn't think it's good idea then thats fine. I also want her to know I have no interest of getting back together with her at all. The problem is I can't think of a way to say this without coming across as rude. Could anyone help me with that? Also my next question is what would be the best way of doing this? facebook message? card? I was going to say txt but if her number is changed she won't get it and I'm not sending it twice. If you guys can help me that would be great, also share your opinions on how good of an idea it is to even send a message, any input will help guys.. thanks!
Ronni_W Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 I'd think it would need to be more personal - no texts, emails or facebook messages. Maybe I'm just "old fashioned", but I'd opt for a snail-mail card. Or a phone call. Just say what you said here EXCEPT you don't need to say "I don't wanna get back with you." Possibly something more like, "I think you're seeing someone else and I don't want to mess that up for you. Is there any chance we can be friends without it negatively impacting your current life?" Best of luck.
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