indianlover Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 Hi all, Ok so I'm in the limbo phase of a relationship where we've been dating about a month and its getting more serious, but its still new in that I feel like I still have to play it cool. Any general advice about this part of a relationship? My main concern is that we're getting physical and yet we haven't discussed if we're exclusive. I'm not sure if this discussion is needed, or if I should just wait it out. While from things he's said it doesn't seem like he'd be dating other people at this point, there is some nagging evidence he may be still looking. Advice - be proactive or sit back and see how things pan out? Thanks!
marlynshopgrl Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 Don't assume anything. Men/women are very different in our dating beliefs. If you are being intimate, then you need to speak up. I know its uncomfortable, but just say, "We've havent discussed if we are exclusive, and Im not comfortable with becoming intimate with someone until this conversation has taken place....." take it from there. But please be open and discuss your feelings, get it out in the open SO you are both in the same page =) Hope I was able to help!
Katherineos123 Posted November 24, 2008 Posted November 24, 2008 im in the weird limbo phase too! This is a very exciting, albeit at times, awkward part of a new relationship, and I dont know what I should do either. Ive been dating this guy for about a month as well, and we just had the "exclusivity" talk tonight actually. I initiated it. I just asked him if I could ask him a question, and he said yes. I just said "I just gotta ask you, and not that Im gonna be mad at you or anything, but I kiiiind just need to know... Are you hooking up with anyone else?" He said No. And I believe him. I dont sleep with people if theyre sleeping with someone else, its just not my style. But I feel relieved to know that even though we're just begining, Im the only girl in his world! I think you should ABSOLUTELY talk to this guy. Hes probably wanting to address this as well, and trust me. Its ALOT easier to invest, or not invest, yourself in someone when you know where you stand. Just come right out and ask it. You will either hear what you want to hear,or he'll get the hint that you are looking to take things between you two a little more seriously.
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