Pain is too much today :(

[Jolie76]

Hey guys,

I know everyone is going through alot of pain and mine is nothing different but I'm having a very hard time today. I love someone deeply and he right now is with someone else and I'm having a hard time dealing with it. Hard time moving on and hard time making it through the day.

I really don't want to get into the whole story it's too painful but I thought in time this was suppose to get better it's not. It feels worse today. Thinking of him with her and knowing their most likely together.

This unrequited love at the moment thing is making me feel horrible and that I wasn't good enough for him to love me or something. I find myself weeping up in public places and watching certain tv shows or movies. I normally am I very strong person in every other part of my life and I'm a great person to talk to when it's someone else's love life but my own I can't take my own advice.

 

We aren't having any contact right now which helps and I know the first thing people say is NC but in reality you need more to cope, thats not always the best solution. He's my friend and doesn't know I'm going through this because he's wrapped up in his own world right now he hasn't even been online in two weeks, a blessing for me I suppose. but inside I think he's avoiding me so we don't have to talk about his new girlfriend, cuz he's always on messenger etc. Regardless I don't want to dwell on why or the reason I'm feeling this way I just want some help and maybe a hug or something, cuz I don't know what else to do, I don't really have many people to talk to,cuz i'm a private person and don't like to keep telling my friends the same thing I'm sad etc, sometimes I wish I just would go to sleep and never wake up it hurts so bad.

 

Thanks for listening

[hereandnow]

I'm right there with you Jolie. It hurts. Today I woke up thinking about it. Big surprise! We'll get through this.

 

(Hug)

[TeaAbraham]

Regardless I don't want to dwell on why or the reason I'm feeling this way I just want some help and maybe a hug or something, cuz I don't know what else to do, I don't really have many people to talk to,cuz i'm a private person and don't like to keep telling my friends the same thing I'm sad etc, sometimes I wish I just would go to sleep and never wake up it hurts so bad.

 

I'm here too! I really just want a hug and another who is really understanding of the situation. And it's so hard because at least for me my ex was my best friend, so when that goes away you're short your best friend to talk to, the person you need the most in this situation! And it's so difficult to meet new people when you are so depressed and personally I don't want to meet new friends when I am so emotionally needy, I feel like I would only be using them.

 

Really just want to sleep forever too jolie! Just remember you're getting stronger and becoming a better person every day.

[Surfer Dude]

People!

 

Maintain NC, don't dwell on the past too much and go out! Hang out with people, call your friends, go bowling, playing golf or whatever you do with them. Flirt with the opposite sex (I know this is the last thing you feel like doing right now, but it will raise your confidence and make you feel wanted again).

 

Remain positive and under all circumstances retain optimism. Don't give in to sorrow and grief. We have all been through this (and some of us still are), you're not alone.

 

I've seen people grieving over their lost love for months or years way too many times on this forum. Don't become like that. It's perfectly healthy and normal to be sad for a while after the breakup, but don't willingly extend this period and let it last for ages.

 

You are not fully aware of how strong and powerful you are. All these terrible and painful emotions come from within you, not from your ex or anywhere else for that matter. You can stop them right now. You can choose not to feel bad anymore. Break this cycle of grief, resentment and hurt ego. Convince yourself that your ex doesn't really deserve a great person like you. They dumped you, they lost the right and privilege to be a part of your life. Now kick them out forever and don't look back.

 

You couldn't possibly imagine if I told you how many great opportunities are waiting for you out there. So many wonderful potential parters who could appreciate you, who would be happy to connect with someone amazing and with a big, loving heart.

 

You lost so much, but this is an opportunity for you to gain even more

[Green]

every time I see cute chicks on here posting about their pain the inner devil in me always feels like offering a helping dick