alwayssme Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 Most people would say that when an ex hears about you moving on or whatever, they would feel dissapointed. I feel like my ex would be happy if he knew I have moved on because then I wouldn't be hurting? Since he said he cares about me so much and that he would do anything to make my pain go away? That's just me thinking, because he was giving me "advice" 2 weeks before i went NC on things to do so I don't feel hurt. he was telling me to go out with my friends and have fun, live life. So I feel like he wants me to move on, be over him and forget him? For some reason that makes me sad I know if I saw him as just a friend, it would be sweet that he cares about me and doesn't want me to be hurt...But I wish NC would make him miss me...They say you don't know what you have untill it's gone, but with the way things have been going lately, I don't have much luck in getting what I want. How would the dumper feel when you finally decide to let them go? Do they miss the attention, start missing you more, or are they careless?
lofi_tokyo Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 Always, here is what I think: Your ex loved you. He really did. But as time passed, he was no longer "in love" and just loved you as a human being. Its not fair to ask someone to in a relationship if they are not longer feeling it, to both the dumper and the dumpee. So your ex had to let you go. Of course, some of those feelings still remain, and he will miss you somedays. I am sure it would hurt him to see you move on, but at the same time, he realizes that it is a necessary part of life: people break up, and move on, they don't linger forever. He loves you and wants you to be happy, so he wants you to heal. Even if it will hurt him a little bit, he knows both of you would be unhappy staying together in a relationship where he was not "in love". Thats my two cents on this one.
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