lofi_tokyo Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 I've definately seem myself go through the stages of grief. If you look at my posts you can probably see me going through each stage. Did denial for maybe four weeks. - Whywhy comebackcomeback he'llcomeback Did anger/resentment for about two weeks. - What a jerk. I am way better off without him. Wow hes a loser. His new girl can have him! Did bargaining for five weeks. - Okay. I'll get over him, love life, and he'll live his life. We'll meet up sometime in the future. Talk. Maybe things will work out. If they don't they don't, but I need to give him at least 5+ months with this new girl to realize shes soo not right for him. When bargaining ended, when I finally accepted how things were. How I cannot change things, I probably will never see him again, even if I did, we will not get back together and have a successful relationship, best to live my life. I got happy, I started to enjoy things for me. I put a post up saying how WEIRD I felt because I finally stopped caring about what the ex is up to, how he feels etc. I almost thought I made it straight to the "acceptance stage", but now I'm in the 2nd day of my depression stage! Damnit! I wish I could have skipped it ;p Copied and pasted from a website: 4. Depression- The "It's really happened" stage. You realize the situation isn’t going to change. The break-up happened and there is nothing to bring the other person back. Acknowledgment of the situation often brings depression. This could be a quiet, withdrawn time as you soak in the situation. Yup. Sounds like where I'm at. So close to finished grieving and yet so far! Darn! I really thought I was solid, but at least I am going through each stage, so I know I AM healing.
JooLee Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 well better now than later you're doing well and you'll pull through it. my depression stage came on early, but then again ive always suffered from mild depression on and off . haha. but you know you;re on the right track. give yrself credit for being strong enough to pull yourself through this
alwayssme Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 tokyo, i think i am in the same stage as you. (except they rotate soemtimes lol) i went through all the stages you talked about and this past few days it has just hit me. He is not trying to contact me, he is gone. Reality kicks in like "wow this really is over." and then I start crying and praying for some relief from this situation. When I think of what he's doing right now, I feel stupid for being hurt but then I say to myself "this isn't about him. it's about me. he's the one who left so of course it's easier on him. i still love him, my pain has nothing to do with how he feels or what he's doing. my heart is broken and it's up to me and me only to fix it no matter how long it may take me." It would be easier if he was hurting over this too (that proabably sounds weird but that's how i feel) i would get some type of relief out of knowing he still cares and misses me, but again like i said it shouldnt matter. can't wait to be done with being hurt...i'm just afraid it will take long...and although the pain may lessen i feel like i'm going to never forget him.
hereandnow Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 It's funny you should post this today TV, because I was thinking the same thing about my situation this morning. The past two days I haven't wanted to get up, just laying there, thinking about things depressed. I was thinking as I lay there, maybe I'm at the depression now. Honestly, I'm still all over the place. Sometimes I catch myself begging her in my mind. I believe there's an old Sam Kinison routine where he goes into this kind of thing. I'll look it up and post a link.
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