always happens

[alwaysconfused]

i guess breaking up does happen to everyone. but in my specific case it seems that im either stupid for thinking the way i do or i just need to get over it. i hope that people can even take me seriously.

i dated this guy for a while but he would never be with me. i never really wondered why i figured it was for obvious reasons. he would just tell me " i like you but i cant be with you" and of course he "pillow talked" the hell out of me.so whatever, things are good. i find out hes sleeping with other girls. i still continue to see him. the entire time hes seeing other girls and me. i guess i knew it i caught him a bunch of times. but i would still always go back to him. anyways. this one last specific time was the straw that broke the camels back. he brought this girl to the bar. a bar we both go to, all of our mutual friends go there. so why wouldnt he or I be there. so he brings this girl with him. and i know her and how she is. so i know whats happening. previous to this he was very weird towards me when we talked. he said something like " you like to hang out alot" i didnt really know where that came from because we were always together he never said anything like that to me before. whatever what i suspected to happen did actually happen so there was a fight. it was over. its been a few months now and my problemn is that

 

if he wanted to get with me again, i would end up doing it. no guy that approaches me is good enough, they just dont compare to the guy that i was into. waht to do what to do

[alwayssme]

Have you ever heard the saying "people will only treat you how you allow them to treat you?" Think about that. Seriously. Why would he be with you "in a relationship" when he can have you if you're not in a relationship? He knows he got you wrapped around his fingers. I understand how you feel about 'every guy I meet doesn't compare to him". That's how I feel about my ex, but the thing is that my ex treated me like a queen and I was very much in love with him, so that's why it's hard to compare. However I can understand that sometimes the heart and the brain work against each other because you can like or even love someone who treats you like crap and still you don't want to be with nobody else because that's the one your heart wants. Well for once I'm telling you for your own good, love yourself. Believe me if he is even worth being with, he will respect that and be even more into you. If not then you know that all he's looking for is to mess around. You said he sleeps with other girls while he's dating you? Come on, you do see how messed up and immature he is. Do NOT give him anymore power than you already have. There are people here who have lost the love of our lives, people we planned on marrying and as much as it kills us to not be with them, we go NC, and endure this pain, simply because some things just don't work out how you plan them. We cannot control other people. I'm not telling you how you should feel because we cant help how we feel but we can help how we act. Don't give in to him. Ignore him and go NC. If he truly cares about you, he will respect you and actually try to be with you.