sunshine2008 Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 I have recently started dating a guy who hasn't long come out of a serious long term relationship. He was living with a girl who he was getting married to and they have a little boy together. I kissed him three months ago (whilst he was still with his girlfriend) on a drunken night out, nothing else happened. He did try to contact me and wanted to see after this but i refused as i didnt want anybody to get hurt. He left his girlfriend 9 weeks ago now and i went out with him two weeks ago. His ex-girlfriend has found out and i am scared that people will think that i have split them up or that we have been having an affair behind her back. Am i in the wrong? Shall i stay away? Please help x
Green Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 You have to follow your own code of ethics so you can look in the mirror and respect yourself. It shouldn't matter what other people think. So if your feeling guilty because you don't like what you did, than it is wrong for you to continue. But if your shame is only because of other people I'd suggest you just ignore that
norajane Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 You can't help what people think. But, if I were you, I'd be more concerned about being his rebound girl...they were planning to get married and do have a 3 year old. That takes a while to get over in terms of being able to have a serious relationship with someone else. Unless you don't care and are just dating him for fun.
Love_Forest Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 if your kissed while you both were drunk forget about that and and if he think there is more remind him about his girlfriend and his child. it is his option what choice he is making but you have to be ethic.
lofi_tokyo Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 You can't help what people think. But, if I were you, I'd be more concerned about being his rebound girl...they were planning to get married and do have a 3 year old. That takes a while to get over in terms of being able to have a serious relationship with someone else. Unless you don't care and are just dating him for fun. I agree. People are going to think whatever they think. You can't change it. It does not matter if you think its right or wrong, others will draw their conclusions. Best not to worry about things that are out of your hands. There is a serious threat you may be a rebound though. As Norajane said, having a marriage planned, and a child, is a serious. Maybe your man is not meant to be with his ex, but coming into a new relationship that quickly could be dangerous for you. I'd recommend reading up on a few articles on how to deal with possibly being a rebound girlfriend. Some rebounds do work out - but only if given the proper care. Most don't though - so beware. :S
Author sunshine2008 Posted April 26, 2009 Author Posted April 26, 2009 Well guess what guys, i was the rebound girl!! I spent 5 months with this loser who was full of promises and lies and i have got hurt bigtime! I am so down, it has been over a month now and i still think of everything he said to me, i wish i could forget and just move on! How do i stop thinking about this person that i really do hate? Any help please? xxxx
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