davidjor Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 OK, do most tell the other person they are cutting all contact, or just do it and not say anything? my bad part is i will be in Panama in 2 weeks, but there are allot of pretty girls in Panama. So I guess it is time to find others to be friends with, and occupy my free time.
EmperorR Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 I just did it and said nothing, why should you let someone who broke your heart, treated you like dirt like your a stranger played with your emotions and feelings know what your doing.
Sysyphus28 Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 OK, do most tell the other person they are cutting all contact, or just do it and not say anything? my bad part is i will be in Panama in 2 weeks, but there are allot of pretty girls in Panama. So I guess it is time to find others to be friends with, and occupy my free time. You saying.........I don't want to talk to you is pointless. Everytime you are messaged or called DO not reply. Put them in your cell phone as "why pick up" Block them on aim. get them gone by going NC
TeaAbraham Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 I was going to do it and say nothing to her, but then I saw her at the store with mr f*cking buttercups and that did not end well. I was so damn happy too. I told her I needed to speak with her and I needed her so damn much. She said to call her over break because she had so much school work this week and she couldn't deal with the situation right now. I wrote her a letter basically confessing my eternal love to her and how much she's hurt me. I was going to give her that letter and never see her again. But then I saw her at the g*d damned store with him. That really set me back. I ended up outside her apartment for a couple hours that night just spewing my feelings out at her and my ex-best friend. She drove me home, and it was pretty much assumed that I would not contact her again, but she said she would read my letter. It would have been so much more rewarding if she thought I was going to see her over break down on my hands and knees begging for her back, but really giving her this letter saying how much I love her and how much she hurt me, and then just blocking her out of my life. Oh well. It ended with her knowing I wasn't going to contact her. I don't know which one is better. I just know I would have felt better knowing I had played my cards last, and there was nothing she could do about it, and that maybe she would have wanted to contact me, but she couldn't. It hurts more seeing how un fazed she was in knowing I wasn't going to contact her. Whatever! I wouldn't want to contact her anyway. **** Edit Sysyphus is right (again). Saying you don't want to talk to them or you're not going to talk to them is pointless. Then you will be expecting something from them, thinking if they cared they will contact you, so if they don't contact you you will feel like ****, but then maybe they will contact you and you'll feel good about that, but they'll do it just to feel like they still have control over you. There's really no point in telling them. Just do it. Block them out of everything. You are the one who decides you don't want this anymore. Don't give them the privilege of talking to you again.
Gere51 Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 Say nothing; just let them figure it out for themselves. Trust me, they'll be shocked that you've taken back control of your life. You're essentially saying, "you don't mean anything to me now and I could care less if I ever heard from you again". You owe them nothing.
alwayssme Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 NC is hard but what other choices are there?
0hpenelope Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 OK, do most tell the other person they are cutting all contact, or just do it and not say anything? I let him know.... to my occasional regret. I wish I had just done it. But seeing other possibilities of what could've happened if I didn't straight up tell him "We can't talk anymore," it definitely outweighs the occasional regret. A friend stopped communicating with her ex cold turkey since this past May, yet he still contacts her - hoping she'd respond. I asked her if it bothers her (yes, it does). So why not just tell him to stop? "It means I would have to speak to him. I don't want to do that." ...Yeah, hitting the delete button is more satisfying than having to hear his voice again, I reckon.
fishtaco Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 davidjor - Assuming you're not legally married, as long as you've communicated that the relationship is over, then you are free. Break ups only takes one side to complete. NC is just a method of recovering from a relationship that has already ended, it doesn't reflect status. If you're currently not in a relationship, you are free to do whatever you want. Have fun in Panama NC is hard but what other choices are there? You could linger and face all the drama and prolonged pain.
Knight_Ctrl Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 When my girl and I broke up, she told me that we needed no contact. Given that I couldn't really force her to keep in touch with me at that point I had no choice but to comply. If shes really thinking about me right now...who knows bro, you cant know. The best you can do is keep up not talking to her at all until you've either moved on or she gets a hold of you....if you even care by then.
IcemanJB Posted November 30, 2008 Posted November 30, 2008 I guess it depends on the situation. I had to tell my ex to stop contacting me, and she was the one who broke it off. She said to talk to her as soon as I'm ready...yeah, even if I am "ready" I probably won't say anything to her.
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