Snake6661 Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 Let me explain some insight into this whole thing, you see we(my ex and I) met in biology class freshman year, i was kinda friends with her but never really talked to her, so at the end of the year she gives me a note saying how much she likes me etc. etc. so our relationship went on for about 1 year and 6 months then it took a turn for the strange. She stopped wanting to hang out, didn't call as much etc. so she said she needed time and eventually she wanted to end it because she doesn't feel anything anymore, I talked her into giving me another chance, she did and it was the same she just didn't care, so i said this isn't worth it and ended it, mainly because she was selfish as hell and said that she wanted to be happy so i said whatever and didn't talk to her, then two days later she comes to me and says she made a mistake and she wanted me back so i took her back and that didn't last, it just got to a point were i said i don't want this because she was doing the same thing, ignoring me, not answering my calls etc. so for about 2 months we have been broken up, and nothing has really happened in that period, except for the fact that i said i was sorry for everything bad in the relationship, then I said i wanted her back she said she didn't want me and that it would feel weird because we were just friends even tho i don't even talk to her as a friend, let alone talk to her. And that she doesn't know the future of us. Then about a week after that she comes to me in a IM saying something about how one of my scrawny friends Nick wants to go out with her but she still says no and is trying to let the kid down easy but hes not going and for some reason tells me this, and then in the most subtle way she says that she is sorry for everything that happened too. Well, during this course of 2 months she has liked two guys one which is some 19 year old which lasted about a day because of the age difference and they never really even went out, now she has this dude who I think that she likes whom she met at the place that she works, but there not going out and i dont know whats going on with that. Then yesterday she sends me a IM saying your not a pothead are you? to which I replied a day later saying why? and she says jw and why i am ignoring her and then i say that i say hi to her and the hallway and she pretty much just says oh ok then in the IM. Which brings me to today, I dont know where we are at like if shes never going to go out with me again or what but i want to go back out and at least try, Oh and if it helps I joined a kickboxing club after the break up and have been talking to girls and working out in the gym just to make her jealous but idk if it had any affect except for the fact that she occasionally asks me if i still kickbox to which i reply yes and that has happened about twice so yea. So what do you think of all of this? Do I have a chance here?
UnamedSeven Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 You do have a chance, but its best to let things, calm down. I'm pretty sure that there is at least a chance for you and her but not a very "great" one. If she likes someone else, then let her be. You can't control her emotions. If she does feel like she really likes another guy, then there are plenty of other people out there who actually care instead of her.
Author Snake6661 Posted November 22, 2008 Author Posted November 22, 2008 You do have a chance, but its best to let things, calm down. I'm pretty sure that there is at least a chance for you and her but not a very "great" one. If she likes someone else, then let her be. You can't control her emotions. If she does feel like she really likes another guy, then there are plenty of other people out there who actually care instead of her. what i dont know what to do is what if she trys talking to me in the hallways and im tryin to do NC?
UnamedSeven Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 Then, your faced with the same problem i am lol. What i am doing so that she doesn't talk to me, is that i go to my locker at different times throughout the school day. Like, before first period, i had to go to my locker to get my stuff for the morning and so did she. So now, right before the school day is over, i get the 2 books i need for first period so that i can go straight to first period without having to stop at my locker. Then, i get the rest of my books right before second period. I'm lucky because i don't have her in any of my classes. She still insists on talking to me and being funny, but i'm now avoiding her as much as possible and the locker trick is working like a charm. Just try to switch up when you go to your locker so that you won't see her in the Halls, as frequent as before. If you still see her, try and take different routes to your classes.
Author Snake6661 Posted November 22, 2008 Author Posted November 22, 2008 lol the thing is im friends with mostly all of her friends and they treat me a little bit more than a friend wether it be a lil flirting or grabbing onto my arm so its kinda hard and my ex thinks i hate her because i dont talk to her
Author Snake6661 Posted November 22, 2008 Author Posted November 22, 2008 Can anyone else please give me some insight on my problem?
Geishawhelk Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 I think you just need to chill and not attach so much importance to this. You're both still in your studies, which means you're both still in your teens, which means you're both really far too young to be so serious about dating. What you should be doing is putting as much thought and energy into your studies as you are to this. Boring i know, but you know why....? Because studies, degrees, pass-marks and qualifications are what will carry you through life. Not teenage 'first-love' situations. Just let it go, be friends, and forget deep emotions for a while. They just screw with your head. And whole you're studying, you don't need your head screwed with.
UnamedSeven Posted November 23, 2008 Posted November 23, 2008 Let her think what she wants. Enjoy life. With or without her.
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