Green Cabaret Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 So me and my bf broke up last week. it was all on good terms and stuff. it just wasn't working out and isn't going to, even though we had been together a long time. And we were both okay about it. I still am, I think. Because there is just no way it will work. But now i think he may have had intentions of getting a new gf and has one already. I just guess this by the way he's been acting, but i seriously doubt i'm wrong. i know him very well. We have always been such great friends. practically best friends even before we started dating. But now he's been avoiding me ever since the break up, so that kind of hurts me. But I think he may be avoiding me to hide the fact that he has a new gf. but i guess what i don't get is why do i care? I love him, but i am not in love with him. and i do want him to be happy. If a new gf makes him happy, then good. I just wish he wasn't hiding it. so why am i feeling a little jealous? and kinda betrayed i guess? I feel bad for feeling this way. i just don't understand it. Does anyone have any understanding of this? I could use a bit of guidance. Thanks, Katie
UnamedSeven Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 IMO: it may be a little bit of everything you said. Its all just a mess of emotions that you are feeling right now, if that makes sense. Its very possible that your ex bf is trying to hide his new gf, but he may not even have one. It could just be, that he is sad over the break up? and he justs wants to love you, like a friend would? I doubt hes trying to distance himself from you if he doesn't have a gf. Just let life, take its course for the moment.
sunbeauty71 Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 Yeh My Ex has just started this behaviour as well, as far as I knew we had been talking well and I thougt we would be fine now to keep communication open for our daughter. He has just thrown a spanner in the works though as he turned all his phones off for the weekend and hasnt return called , I know he didnt go home last night...all of it is out of character and Id say he has a new gf and is avoiding me but so OBVIOUSLY it would be less painful if he just rang and told me straight instead of being all weird.
JooLee Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 so why am i feeling a little jealous? and kinda betrayed i guess? I feel bad for feeling this way. i just don't understand it. Does anyone have any understanding of this? I could use a bit of guidance. Thanks, Katie its normal. you want to know and feel like the relationship means something to him and by him having a new gf so fast makes it seems otherwise. and the fact that you are being replaced. its normal to feel all that you feel. it will pass. just stay strong.
Author Green Cabaret Posted November 22, 2008 Author Posted November 22, 2008 I know he didnt go home last night...all of it is out of character and Id say he has a new gf and is avoiding me but so OBVIOUSLY it would be less painful if he just rang and told me straight instead of being all weird. Yeah, that's me too. he is being all out of character too. and he has said some things that make it sound like he's hiding something. i agree with you. It would be less painful if he would just tell me. Thanks every body for your help. i think you're all probably right. thanks again!
Recommended Posts