Lucky555 Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 I'm having a hard time moving my feet and being excited So after you read this below, what should we do on the date? Here its is, the guy sounds great on paper but i have seen his photo. I think chemistry will be the biggest factor here. He doesn't have blue or green eyes like i always have loved. But then again i did love a guy with brown eyes before when i was 10! lol I don't think hes my type but you never know. I am not enthusiastic about it...is that bad? My friend is the one that set me up and its because he wanted a date and hes visiting her boyfriend. He does want to go out with me. I"M THE PROBLEM. I feel used sort of like she just wanted to get rid of him for awhile or something. I Am DRIVING him and if anything i just want to relax and watch a movie. (which won't happen) I feel like i have to be an entertainer because i am hanging out with him. I have made this commitment to her and him. (she would never forgive me if i didn't go out with him and she is technically trying to help me) 8.5 months have not been on a date. I am stressed because of obligations to school work. Biggest factor: What if hes a great guy and i am too scared to jump in Biggest thing out of it is we could be friends.
Author Lucky555 Posted November 22, 2008 Author Posted November 22, 2008 So any suggestions! Make this whole thing simpler. what should we do on a first date to get to know each other better?
lino Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 I don't know how old either of you are but why don't you just go and have some drinks with him? Alcohol will make things simpler for both of you IMO
Viking Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 How about instead of freaking out (especially about the eye color...), you go to a coffee shop or local burger joint and just talk about what kind of stuff you like to do. Remember, since you're the girl, do most of the talking so he feels comfortable. Everyone likes talking about themselves, but don't make him tell you his life story. If anything, he should feel used, not you. Just be friendly and don't be too scared. Its hardly a date at that. In order to progress to something bigger, you have to start out as friends.
RecordProducer Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 You're makig a big deal out of it. And it's not. You made the commitment to HIM, and it's not like you owe him anything, but it'd be nice to NOT stand him up. It's normal to lack enthusiasm when going on a first date with a person you've never seen before. I don't see why you feel obligated to entertain him or drive him around. Just go to a local coffee shop or restaurant, spend an hour or two talking and that's it. If you don't like him, that is. Regarding the eye color... You're excluding at least 50% of the male population just based on their eye color. I hope your next criterion is not related to his singing skills.
Author Lucky555 Posted November 22, 2008 Author Posted November 22, 2008 your all right Ill just chill out. And i like those suggestions! THANKS
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