John1121 Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 I probably have another year before i can start dating again, this is due to college and not sure where i will end up after graduation. Im starting to get a little worried about it though. My last relationship was a train wreck and i really do want to fall in love again. Find someone whose special to me and not a train wreck. ANybody have experiece finding that person you love in your late 20's or early 30's. Oh and im new here so im starting with this.
Viking Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 I'm not in the same age bracket as you, but college-wise, I'll be finishing up in Spring of 09. Here's my philosophy on the whole thing. Why not date and if you find someone special who you end up becoming serious with in the next year, why not include them in your plans. Maybe they have plans that are way cool and you'd like to do some of the same activities with them? Don't postpone finding someone who makes you happy because of school. There are no better "picking grounds" for women than college. The only thing is that you want to get someone who is mature and not some freshman (or in the case of my ex, a senior) and have them break up with you because they don't have their act together and they're realizing it. Find someone who is mature enough to have a serious relationship with. Also, there is no rush. Don't fall into the trap of thinking that you have to have someone (especially now that the holidays are here...). Find a girl who wants to be with you.
Brimstone_Angel Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 John, your not that bad. I am 38 and terrified to open myself up again. My last girlfriend really shattered my heart. Yes. Found it. Kept it for a spell. Then lost it. Finding love is a gamble. Sometimes you can do all the right things and get nothing. Sometimes when you are totally broke, that winfall comes in. It is unpredictable. The only thing you can do is ensure you are ready and willing to take that plunge. Other than that be observant of what works for you and what doesn't. Look for that opportunity when it arises. And most importantly, be relaxed and just enjoy the search. If it was meant to be, it shall be.
Author John1121 Posted November 22, 2008 Author Posted November 22, 2008 Thanks for the replies people. THe train wreck i refer to was an abusive (verbally) individual. Im trying to find my direction again. After college my goal is to move back to Europe. I dont think the ladies will like that to well. I live in a town I've been dying to excape permently from for years. I cant afford to meet someone that wants to stay here. My heart will die, lol. I guess im finding allot of excuses to cut myslef off from the oppisite sex. Moving to Europe and not wanting kids at all keep me solitude i guess.
Brimstone_Angel Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 I know what you mean. I am a victim of my own fears and failures in relationships. But, the only way to overcome that is to get back on that bike my friend.
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