Jake12429 Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 Long story short, been dating this girl for about 6 months...both 27 years old, things have been going great. Had a great weekend together just this past week, and we talk all the time on email and text and what not. She wrote a really flaterring/sappy email on tuesday about how great a time she had over the weekend, etc. However, the rest of the week, she's been almost impossible to contact. Hasn't initiated a single text/email (including after work mind you, so "i'm so busy" can only be used as an excuse so much), and when i have initiated, she's been really short with me. This is all an incredibly recent development, which is why i'm not getting all paranoid or insecure, but it's pretty clear that something at least a little odd is going on. Again, I always respect her independence, and up until literally this point, we have been very good about balancing who contacts who, but this week has just been so odd...especially considering her email from tuesday morning. Quesiton is: What gives? Is she still playing games, looking to see if such a lack of contact will get a rise out of me? Is she simply not so interested in talking to me this week? This might sound really stupid, but trust me when I tell you, this is by definitely the first time she's acted like this...going days without contacting. I'd easily say "she's just not interested" or "she's seeing someone else" if this was a longer trend, but we're talking 3 or 4 days. ???
JohnnyBlaze Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 She could just be going through a mood (no, not like that. Well, maybe - who knows?). Even as a guy, I've had times where I've simply broken off all contact for a while. No calls, no emails, no drop-in visits, nothing. I hermitize myself. After a bit, I come out and pick up like nothing ever happened. The first time people experience it, they do seem to get a little panicky, but they settle in soon enough. She may just be having a few shutdown days of her own. You're right; if it were longer, I'd be worried. However, the two of you have been together for six months; your relationship should be able to weather a few days of radio silence by this point. Give her a quick call on the weekend to see if she wants to go out (to unwind after such a busy week). If she says no, make some plans of your own. Have a guys night out! Do some tequila shots! Enjoy your weekend, and then give her a call Monday evening to find out how her weekend went. Now, of course, if she's blowing you off all next week as well (in the bad way), then there might be cause for concern. But that's just my 2¢.
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