lady_door Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 I'll try to make this as short as possible My bf and I live in different cities and pretty much only see each other on the weekends. I usually come to him because my mom lives nearby and visit her often anyway. Now, this weekend he's invited to some party near where I live and he told me last weekend he'd come over today, sleep here and go to his friend's place from here tomorrow. Yesterday we talked and he said he might be late today or not make it at all because his dad might have surgery today (he's been in the hospital for about a week, he had a stroke). I told him it's fine, family comes first. Two hours ago (which is 7 pm here) he sent me a text saying he won't come today because he just got home and doesn't feel like driving so far anymore. I asked about his dad and he said the surgery is postponed till Monday. So... am I wrong to be a little pissed? I feel like he doesn't even want to see me. And it's not even so much that he doesn't come over today, but the lame reasons for it. 7 pm is too late? He works till 5:30 anyway, so it wouldn't have been much earlier either way. It seems to me that he didn't plan on being here today anyway, so he could have at least told me earlier so that I could have made other plans.... right? So what do you think, am I right to be a little angry or am I overreacting? Sorry this got so long after all.... thanks to everyone who read it
PrincessPeach Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 I think you are overreacting. He has had a long and stressful day. Even if he got home at not a very late time, he has a lot to be wearing down on his mind right now and make him mentally exhausted. He might want to stay home to feel supportive of his dad and feel close to him until the surgery happens. In hindsight he might understand that he would have been unlikely to make it, but he still might have been really hoping himself that he would come and was just blocking out his own realization that he wouldn't be because of his hopes.
Author lady_door Posted November 21, 2008 Author Posted November 21, 2008 He might want to stay home to feel supportive of his dad and feel close to him until the surgery happens. If that was the case he could have told me. I've been very supportive and understanding when it comes to his father, so he knows I'd be okay with it. The thing is, he hasn't even been visiting his dad at the hospital all that much. And he's still coming over tomorrow and going to his friend's party... so I really don't think that's it.
PrincessPeach Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 And his wanting to stay close to his dad could very well be a subconscious thing, so he might not even be aware of all the whys imself to be able to let you know. He still may be exhausted and need some rest for tonight. I wouldn't be concerned unless it becomes a regular habit of his. I will agree that it is odd that he still plans on going to the party but not coming to see you. =( Hopefully he will stop by or you could ask him to stop by to get dinner together or watch a movie at home or something like that.
SoulSearch_CO Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 Err...I'm going to go with overreacting.
Author lady_door Posted November 22, 2008 Author Posted November 22, 2008 I will agree that it is odd that he still plans on going to the party but not coming to see you. =( Hopefully he will stop by or you could ask him to stop by to get dinner together or watch a movie at home or something like that. He will stop by today (at least that's the plan). I don't know, I guess I'd just like him to care more if we see each other or not.
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