MusicChick24 Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 This situation is so confusing I didn't know how to categorize it so it may be in the wrong place. So I've been with my current bf for 3 yrs and I've been friends with a guy for four years (he's an ex, we dated my freshman year in HS). My friend and I have been very close, and he recently began dating this girl about 7 months ago, they got "engaged" after 3 months of dating. He is 20 and she is 17. He said repeatedly he was giving up on her because she wouldn't tell her parents they were dating because when they met him her mom said she wanted to get him arrested for dating her underaged daughter. And he told me that if she didn't tell her parents before Thanksgiving he was done with her. So after that he tells me that he still loves me, and misses me, but he knows I have bf, and I was like yeah I'm committed. He told me that his girlfriend cheated on him with her close friend in which she completely undressed infront of him but wasn't sure if it went any further. And that he cheated on her a week ago, with a co-worker of his. He said he wasn't sure if he wanted to spend the rest of his life with her. The next day (two days ago) he said he was committed to her and that she had told her dad but not her mom. He said he wanted to do everything he could to spend the rest of his life with her and I told him I was happy for him. Then yesterday, I had left a comment on his myspace about not being in his top friends on myspace, it was a joke, and he commented back on mine saying "F**K you" and he had deleted me. I tried to talk to him via AIM but he signed off. When I texted him to appologize and say it was a joke he texted back and said that he was giving up our friendship to prove to his "fiance" that he was committed to her fully. I texted back and said I didn't understand but I wished him luck. This was one of my best friends. I knew his "fiance" was very insecure because she would always IM me and ask me if I liked him and said she was worried because alot of girls liked him. And I would always tell her no, I have a boyfriend. So I don't know if she asked him to do this or if it was his choice. It kind of shakes me. My bf and my closer friends say I should just shake it off and keep on forward forgetting about him, and some friends say I should keep trying to talk to him... What do ya'll think? <3 Sorry for the length.
SushiX Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 He cheated on his fiance and she cheated oh him too? My gosh its not gonna work out at all. He's just gonna come back and cry to you again saying he misses you, loves you, wants to be with you all over again. Sounds like he got some issues. Maybe doesn't like to be alone? It's sad but even more sad that you'll fall for his games again because he's your best friend. What a friend he is eh? Personally, I couldn't care less for friends like that. Too much drama for me!
Author MusicChick24 Posted November 21, 2008 Author Posted November 21, 2008 Your right sushiX he is alot of drama...and I don't want to deal with it anymore...it is sad however to lose a friend you've known for so long...but once him and his fiance break up he will come back but I won't be there anymore.. <3
Ronni_W Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 (((hugs))). Sucks when that happens. In your shoes, I would just leave him alone for now, and be there when all his shyte hits the fan. At least, be open to exploring a reconciliation at that time. You are his good friend, and he will miss you. Also sounds as if he is going to need his good friends at some point in the future. You will, of course, have the choice of whether or not you want to resume your friendship when he is a bit more, er, emotionally mature. In the meantime, if you can see your way clear to just sending out loving and positive vibes to him...sort of seems like that will be for the highest good of all concerned.
Author MusicChick24 Posted November 22, 2008 Author Posted November 22, 2008 (((hugs))). Sucks when that happens. In your shoes, I would just leave him alone for now, and be there when all his shyte hits the fan. At least, be open to exploring a reconciliation at that time. You are his good friend, and he will miss you. Also sounds as if he is going to need his good friends at some point in the future. You will, of course, have the choice of whether or not you want to resume your friendship when he is a bit more, er, emotionally mature. In the meantime, if you can see your way clear to just sending out loving and positive vibes to him...sort of seems like that will be for the highest good of all concerned. Thanks for your words. He does need to grow up. He's older than me but very immature. I most likely would be there for him if he decided he wanted to be friends again....but I hate drama and its hard for me to allow someone to do this to me ....especially a "friend".
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