Bells Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 I went on an outing with friends, and sometimes these friends bring other new friends with them. One of these newer friends was someone that knew me from a previous encounter in the past (while out with friends). Another thing was, she's always happy to see me. The first time I met her, it was just a short introduction, and we chatted briefly. Second time she saw me (at this gathering again), she hugs me, and afterwards, still keeps her arm around my waist (so I figured I better do the same) while we talk, and she's flirting with me. I introduce her around to some of my friends, and they are flirting right off the bat with her. (It was funny, different guy, same lines) but she laughed anyhow. Anyhow, we go off to the side, and start talking a bit more, and I mentioned some of us next week are getting together to see this foreign film, and she said she was free....and I was RIGHT in the middle of getting her phone number, she some dude comes out of the blue (one of the guys in our group) grabs her and brings her back to the group. I was like "wtf??" (I did later get her info) Then one other dude tried to interrupt us in the middle of a conversation, flirting with her. (He had a girlfriend anyhow...but he likes to flirt regardless, because that's "how he is") Later on, that same dude was complaining that I was "holding the poor girl captive" when she should be mingling with our group. He was trying to justify his behavior. I go, "Well, I was getting her contact info when you did that, kind of rude, dude." He was whinin how I was keeping the "poor girl to myself" lol See, I had a one-up on all of them simply because I knew her better than everyone else. Man, a pretty girl enters a room, and men fight over her like cats and dogs. Is this acceptable....or is it true that there is no honor among men?
Humbleman Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 It's every flea-ridden' dog for himself mate.
D-Jam Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 I agree that it's every man for himself. Look at when I talked about long ago when I was dating another girl, we went to a lounge, and while I was in the bathroom some other guy tried to lure her away from me...claiming "he can't handle you". In settings like that, when it's a majority of single men and only a few single women...expect them to cockblock and do whatever they can to get the girl before you do...especially if she's attractive. What do you do? Maintain your cool. This is where you see how interested said woman really is in you. If she comes back, then she's yours. If she was contemplating dating you, but let some guy snatch her away and she goes out with him instead...then it shows she likes attention and guys "fighting over her". Many times the girl will be more into the guy who isn't "trying too hard" to get her. So maintain your cool. Make her come to you rather than you to her. Seen some women go for the guy who tried very hard, thinking he's the most interested...only to find out his "trying hard" was really to conquest her and move on.
zhsoj Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 You hang around with idiots, dude Sorry, but honestly you must see that.
Author Bells Posted November 21, 2008 Author Posted November 21, 2008 You hang around with idiots, dude Sorry, but honestly you must see that. Hey, they can't all be perfect...there's always some in every group...have to take the good with the bad.
alphamale Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 What do you do? Maintain your cool. This is where you see how interested said woman really is in you. If she comes back, then she's yours. If she was contemplating dating you, but let some guy snatch her away and she goes out with him instead...then it shows she likes attention and guys "fighting over her". Many times the girl will be more into the guy who isn't "trying too hard" to get her. So maintain your cool. Make her come to you rather than you to her. ^^^this i would also like to add that a woman in a group of men will make eye contact and smile at the guy she really likes...so sit back and be cool. she'll give you signals if she's interested. the men who try to hit on her without an "invitation" are usually going to lose out
BlueHarvest Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 I laughed at the line that one guy did to your girl "He can't handle you." That's just funny. It's such a cheesy line and only if your girlfriend were a completely brainless lobotomy patient would she fall for it. I bet she was giggling with you about it when you got back from the restroom.
D-Jam Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 I laughed at the line that one guy did to your girl "He can't handle you." That's just funny. It's such a cheesy line and only if your girlfriend were a completely brainless lobotomy patient would she fall for it. I bet she was giggling with you about it when you got back from the restroom. Yeah...while things didn't work out down the road with that girl, it did more or less say how much there isn't any sense of honor among the gender. In the end she dumped me for her best guy friend (who had been playing doormat in many ways on her even before we dated).
prettybaby Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 I'm starting to like Bells. He always has the most entertaining stories Seriously though, Bells, I don't know if you're constantly surrounded by the wrong men and women or what, but you seem to have the worst luck.
IrishCarBomb Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 Develop your wit and remain calm. I've had women be lukewarm toward me, but after being witty and cool when confronted by other guys, they always seemed to warm up. Even if your wit totally fails, if you seem calm and confident it still works.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 If I'm with a group of guys and one guy hones in on me, trust me, if I don't want him, I will let the other guy know. I will not let the other guy leave thinking I wanted the the first one. I was seriously cockblocked the last time I went out with my friend, and there was no way we could get out of it. The guy was brothers with the owner of the bar and also did work with a friend of mine. No way to escape. I was really pissed. I kept giving him signals, like looking around, not listening to him....it went on and on and on..
Author Bells Posted November 22, 2008 Author Posted November 22, 2008 Develop your wit and remain calm. I've had women be lukewarm toward me, but after being witty and cool when confronted by other guys, they always seemed to warm up. Even if your wit totally fails, if you seem calm and confident it still works. I just ignore the damned fool or just nod at his so-called "Wit" just for the sake of nodding, going "mmhuh, mmhuh, mmhuh, etc"
Shygirl15 Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 I'm starting to like Bells. He always has the most entertaining stories Good sense of humor, too. Shame he can't score. But I think he sometimes scores, but too much of a gentleman to confess to us :lmao:
Author Bells Posted November 22, 2008 Author Posted November 22, 2008 I get involved with friends where there's too much male ego, and men who are OVERLY-protective of their female friends for whatever reason. They would sometimes refer to them as their "Little sister" even though there is no relation. Then some new fellow comes in the picture, they try to put him out of the picture as soon as possible. Competition..you know how it is. I think some of them don't like me because I steal their thunder. I think the only thing that differentiates me from them, is my humbleness and my lack of desire to be the center of attention.
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