Humbleman Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 Does anyone else find dating boring? I know I do and it is usually my dates that make the date boring. I'm not looking for a long term commitment, they usually are. I want to goof around and have some medium of fun. Their idea of fun is sitting in a restaurant with conservative sized wine glass sipping one glass of a wine for several hours. The conversations are boring, they consist of the same old questions "what do you do for living?", "where do you live?", "what are your ambitions in life?", "where do you see yourself in a decades time?". This is not my idea of good conversation, it's boring being asked the same questions all the time by serious women who are trying to weed out "Mr. Right!". I've been on dates with women who refused to have fun, daring not to indulge on more than one glass of wine in case they lose their senses and actually enjoy themselves. My finest date was with a woman who just wanted to get into my pants. She showered me with compliments, we had fun, we indulged in port and ended up having the most amazing sex, the chemistry was electric, but both us didn't want anything serious and after a few more nights of heavenly bliss we parted ways on good terms. Are there any women out there who actually wants to have fun on dates and date around? The women I date usually want the whole package and the whole package is boring, just like they are and their attitude towards dating.
D-Jam Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 I'd say if dating is boring, then do things to spice it up. Don't take them out to the typical things. Find something interesting and take him/her there. If your date is all "watching it" and on the defensive, then let it go if this is a first or second date. People are generally on their guard then. If this is further and he/she still can't loosen up, then take this as a precusor of what a relationship will be like. Dating is only boring when you let it be.
prettybaby Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 You're obviously just looking to get laid, so why bother dating? There are women out there for that sort of thing. It simply looks like you don't have the same goals and priorities as the women you date. You're not on the same page and you approach it with the wrong attitude, so it's bound to fail. Do you try to make it any more fun when you find it getting boring?
BlueHarvest Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 Yea it doesn't sound like you want to be dating anyways. There are plenty of "commitment-free" websites out there. Try those. Just don't be dissapointed when after getting laid that there is no sense of fufillment. Orgasms don't hug you the morning after or make you breakfast.
alphamale Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 The conversations are boring, they consist of the same old questions "what do you do for living?", "where do you live?", "what are your ambitions in life?", "where do you see yourself in a decades time?". sounds like a job interview women are constantly complaining about nerdy and boring men. well i have news for them....there are just as many nerdy and boring women
whichwayisup Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 So, don't do the sitdown in a restaurant type of date. Go shoot pool or plan something FUN. I have to ask, do you show any humour during your dates? Or are you just looking for the woman to supply that for you?
SushiX Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 Well you can make it fun by talking about other things than the typical questions. Doesn't seem like you want anything serious at all with these women. If you just wanna get laid, convince them you're the whole package and the man of their dreams and hopefully you'll get that amazing sex. If not, at least you'll have fun trying to bed them!
You'reasian Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 I make a woman dig to see deeper who I am and I'm okay with being a boring and nerdy man on a date if it happens that way. After the date, I go home.... alone... and do silly, boring things like play the guitar, go for a lil run on the beach, a short swim in the ocean, read something interesting/educational, watch a movie and sleep alone, soundly
PrincessPeach Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 As others have mentioned it isn't exactly a problem with them. It's a problem with you and your own approach. It is NOT your dates that make it boring, and as long as you think that, it won't ever get better. YOU are the one picking the type of date to go out on. If the dinner date is not something you even want to do.... then why do you bother choosing that as your method of dating?!? Go choose to do something fun as a first date. Go bowling, ice skating, hiking, something YOU enjoy. The women can't refuse to have fun if having fun is the premise of the date. Having fun is not the premise of a dinner date. People of both genders are going to approach that as a get to know you tool, so why expect something else from it? YOU are creating your own problem here and it is YOU that has to do something to fix it. The only constant to all these dates you don't enjoy is YOU. Don't assume the problem is with someone else. That is your biggest mistake. In cases like that the answer is almost always something that can be solved by looking within yourself.
sscutie Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 Maybe you are just not the dating type... I guess it depends on the person
nicki Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 D-Jam is right on the money. If you are having a boring time, then do something to "spice it up." I agree, sitting in a restaurant with big wine glasses and having the same conversation you've had on every first date IS a big bore. So don't do it. Go do something active, like hiking or a sporting event. Or even go-kart racing. Go to a fair, festival or some event. Since the holidays are coming up, ask someone to go Christmas shopping with you, and make sure you go get some hot chocolate while you are out. Those kinds of dates are very enjoyable! Then you can save the dinner date for the next time, when the ice is already broken. It's way more fun when you already have some things to talk about. And, just so you know, a lot of women WON"T drink a lot on the first date. I don't know about them, but too much alcohol makes me want to rip my clothes off...not such a good idea before you know someone well enough to do that, but very fun once you do!
prettybaby Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 I don't know about them, but too much alcohol makes me want to rip my clothes off...not such a good idea before you know someone well enough to do that, but very fun once you do! Right on. I'm a woman and I'm the same hahah
Author Humbleman Posted November 22, 2008 Author Posted November 22, 2008 You're obviously just looking to get laid, so why bother dating? There are women out there for that sort of thing. It simply looks like you don't have the same goals and priorities as the women you date. You're not on the same page and you approach it with the wrong attitude, so it's bound to fail. Do you try to make it any more fun when you find it getting boring? I date because I don't want to develop a reputation as a player because once you are tagged with this, your reputation preceeds you. This is what a lot of guy's do not realize, they think with the wrong head. I would like a relationship with a woman who will give me what I want and lots of it, but the women I meet want a large house, a family, a nice car and a white picket fence and I don't want a family or a picket fence. When I get bored of the date, I wrap it up then and there. I'll drop the girl off, wait until she enters her house, then delete her number and go home to put my feet up and chill.
Author Humbleman Posted November 22, 2008 Author Posted November 22, 2008 Yea it doesn't sound like you want to be dating anyways. There are plenty of "commitment-free" websites out there. Try those. Just don't be dissapointed when after getting laid that there is no sense of fufillment. Orgasms don't hug you the morning after or make you breakfast. There is a sense of fulfillment, I gain a sense of fulfillment from sexual intercourse and having a woman admire my body for an hour or two at a time. I actually don't like hugs much and I rarely eat breakfast.
Author Humbleman Posted November 22, 2008 Author Posted November 22, 2008 So, don't do the sitdown in a restaurant type of date. Go shoot pool or plan something FUN. I have to ask, do you show any humour during your dates? Or are you just looking for the woman to supply that for you? I like to flash my cash, I make my fair share of money and a majority of women like money, so I take women out somewhere semi-classy and allow them to eat semi-classy and drink classy ports or wines of their choice. I use money as a tool of persuasion and judging from the women I have dated previously, it works. When I meet a woman who doesn't care about money and wants to play Pool or go to a ten pin bowling alley then I'll take her, but it feeds my ego to wear a nice shirt and pants and dine for the evening, the conversation can be fun providing the women don't try and unravel my personal life all in one sitting. Plus the women I meet are through business mainly, I am not sure how asking a business woman if she wants go to shoot pool would go down? It sounds like a car crash waiting to happen.
Author Humbleman Posted November 22, 2008 Author Posted November 22, 2008 Well you can make it fun by talking about other things than the typical questions. Doesn't seem like you want anything serious at all with these women. If you just wanna get laid, convince them you're the whole package and the man of their dreams and hopefully you'll get that amazing sex. If not, at least you'll have fun trying to bed them! I do tend say what women want to hear, but the trouble you get with that is if you scorn a woman, then hell freezes over and my life become a tad uncomfortable. I certainly do spin lines to try and hook, line and sinker a woman. It comes off more often than not, I think it's the false sincerity that does it.
Author Humbleman Posted November 22, 2008 Author Posted November 22, 2008 And, just so you know, a lot of women WON"T drink a lot on the first date. I don't know about them, but too much alcohol makes me want to rip my clothes off...not such a good idea before you know someone well enough to do that, but very fun once you do! That's my main objective. Two glasses of wine is hardly enough, but it is enough to make a woman less tense, a relaxed woman in my eyes is an irresistible woman, not as irresistible as me, but they come a close second.
redfathom Posted November 22, 2008 Posted November 22, 2008 I don't think the type of girl you are really looking for cares if you're a player. They too want to date casually, like you do. So like suggested, just find a girl who wants to have fun and doesn't want a commitment. Find a few woman, who want to be FWB...and be honest about it, no sense in wasting everyones time.
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