Nar14 Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 Hi! I never thought I would be member of a forum. This is desesperate call for help! i have been together with my fiance for the past 10 months. I have been in numerous relationships before just like her. She is 32 Im 26. Does the fact that your fiance pushes you hard (physically) IN A MIDDLE OF AN ARGUMENT means that some day she might even hit you?
JackJack Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 IMO, if someone feels the need to get physical with for whatever reason, you might want to rethink why you're with them. I wouldn't tolerate that. I'm not saying it could lead to her hitting you at some point, although it could. I think using any kind of physical abuse is not acceptable, period.
quankanne Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 that's a red flag in my book. I don't know if this is an indicator that she'll grow more violent over time, but I *do* see that behavior as incredibly disrespectful. And when people choose to "communicating" physically that's just not good ... it says they will always use might over reason to force someone into submitting to their will/opinion/etc.
Author Nar14 Posted November 21, 2008 Author Posted November 21, 2008 She has so many great things...I'm like 400 times stronger than her and she knows it...I WOULD ABSOLUTELY NEVER HURT HER. Not her nor any other women in the earth. I find that to be the BIGGEST assault and abbusive thing any man can do. She clearly knows how I think about that, so I think she is either pushing my physcll, testing me, messing with my head or something weird like that. Ijsut dont get it...
JackJack Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 Has she always done this? Or is this something she recently started doing?
Author Nar14 Posted November 21, 2008 Author Posted November 21, 2008 Its the second time she does it...and please believe me when I say that Im not perfect and I have a cold attitude towards her somtimes...but I dont think its fair...
JackJack Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 I think you both should sit down and have a talk. Tell her how that makes you feel and that its unacceptable to you. If you're cold to her at times, you also need to address why that is. You both need to talk and see if this is something worth hanging onto.
whichwayisup Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 Does the fact that your fiance pushes you hard (physically) IN A MIDDLE OF AN ARGUMENT means that some day she might even hit you? Putting hands or pushing ANYONE during an argument is crossing personal space and boundries. Next time she does that, TELL her not to touch you and take afew steps back. I highly doubt she's gonna beat you up, but IF she has an anger issue, one day that push could turn into punch. Better to take time-outs and step away from eachother if she gets her blood boiling quickly and then talk when she's calmer and not so pushy..(Sorry, I had to add in some humour there..)
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