awesomeness43 Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 sorry, vent but please help... For the past week or so, i have been fighting with myself as to whether i should break up with her or try and stick this out. I have to say though that no matter what i will regret it and it is my fault. I have been in relationships before but nothing past 3-4 months mark. I have always gotten bored and what not. Yet, i am not the type to usually be in relationships. I am more of the chill, hang out with the friends go clubbing or house parties and just mess around with whoever and date with no strings attached nor emotions. I have been doing that the past couple of years and i have been bored of it. At times i go through phases where i just really want someone that i can really fall for that i can absolutely give my heart to who is worth my time and up to par and deserving. I am very picky, (sad to say as well as shallow). Over the summer i was on vacation with friends and met a girl i completely fell for. That does not happen often. She is now my girlfriend of almost 6 months and i can honestly say i love her. She is the best in every way and everything i can ask for, a model, independent, nice, smart, good family back round as well as financially secure. We get along great and everyone says we are a great couple. We always have so much fun and take vacations together atleast once a month and spend atleast a week out of the month together if not more every other weekend so the ldr is not an issue. We have great communication daily and always feel as if were always there with each other. The problem started when we were having small arguments and a whole array of other miniature problems. So lately ive been going out more with friends clubbing and i just miss the chase and the excitement of dating and bedding different people on a weekly basis and being hit on. Yet, i can not stand the thought of hurting her and will not cheat and can't do anything but giving them a smiling and walking away. She is a great girl and everything i want, (sounds hypocritical) but a big part of me knows i am not ready to be in a committed relationship and miss the old me. I just don't want to lose her forever but at the same time i want to work things out but it always seems like i pick stupid fights with her in hopes of her giving up on us. I just wish somehow we can, perhaps in the future get back together when I am in a different mindset. I know that it will not happen because lately just when i hint at it she breaks down and cry. I am not a jerk and have treated her like a princess. I just don't know what to do anymore....
theBrokenMuse Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 Not to sound rude but do you think the problem can stem from a fear of commitment or emotional intimacy? Some people spend their entire lives in this sort of cycle where they find great women and then push them away once the relationship becomes too 'real' for them. Which is usually after the initial newness of a relationship starts to wear off. It's worth looking into and perhaps even exploring with a professional. Don't get me wrong, some people are fine with being a bachelor for life. However, I've also noticed that as some people age and there are no more parties and wild dates, they become increasingly lonely and regret frivolously piddling away their youths. My uncle is the embodiment of this. Of course it could also be that you're just really young and immature still. If that's the case, all you can do is let her go until you are emotionally ready to deal with having a healthy relationship.
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