mswonderful Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 So I had a first date with this guy last Friday. We've been talking all week, and we really clicked. Things are just very "natural" with us. This Sunday, we have another date planned. Tonight, I was talking on the phone w/ him, and he asks me what I was doing on Friday. I said "I'm not sure yet." Then he said, "Well, do you want me to call you tomorrow to see if you don't have plans? My old friend from CA is coming up and I might be doing something with my friends." I said sure, but then I got really nervous. He's 26, I'm 24, it's the first time meeting his friends and I am just confused! What's your advice? Should I make myself available for him? Give me some tips in case I do meet his friends! PS I am usually pretty shy in front of new people...ahhhh Thanks!
hollykins Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 To me it doesn't really sound like he's asking you to meet his friends. Sounds like he might have plans with his friends, and you might have plans of your own, and that you'll chat tomorrow to see if you're both free.
shockandawed Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 My take is the same as Hollykins on this. However, I don't see anything out of line here. You said you guys really clicked and things are "natural". You are talking all the time and he appears respectful of your wishes and not rushing anything. He has a friend from out of town coming in, so what if you end up hanging out together?
PrincessPeach Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 Personally, by the sound of it, I think he is preparing to invite you out with his friends. You already have a date planned for Sunday. If it were me, I'd just wait until then to see him and make other plans for yourself Friday. but if you want to see him or meet his friends there isn't anything wrong with that. If you think you will have fun.... go for it. The important thing is to do what YOU want to do.
SoulSearch_CO Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 I don't think meeting friends is a massively huge step. I don't know that I'd even consider it anything important. I went on a group date (they were ALL his friends) on my very first date with this one guy when I was 22. No big deal. I'm shy around new people, too. But I think having somebody there that you know (your guy), it should make it easier. Go for it.
prettybaby Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 Just do what feels comfortable to you. It's still the early stages, don't put pressure on yourself. If you don't feel comfortable meeting his friends just yet, then say you're busy on Friday and go on the Sunday date. I'd personally go meet his friends. I'm a bit shy, but comfortable enough to socialize with new people, so it would be fine. Also, meeting somebody's friends can be interesting when you don't know your date all that well yet. It kind of helps you get a better grasp of their life in a way.
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