UnamedSeven Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 Okay well, I've posted my story here twice so far, but I'm going to sum it up, as much as i can: I met this girl in September (when school first started) and we had 1 class together. Everything was alright and we started talking about how she just moved here and how it was like back where she lives, blah, blah, blah. I decided to just let her know, bluntly, that i liked her in the beginning of October. She said that it was nice, but she just broke up with her boyfriend. Me and her still talked, but i could definetly tell that she was really trying to distacne herself. She kept answers to a "one word" minimum and tried to avoid me in General. I asked her if anything was wrong, and she said that she was fine. So, on Monday, i decided to find her after Math (we don't have the same class together, but she has math during the same period as me with a different teacher) and i found her and it was like as if i never left, and she was completely fine. The last time i talked to her, she acted like she was depressed. Now, shes been acting really calm and seems somewhat interested in me after the month apart. Shes been enjoying our talks in between classes instead of not caring all together. What i want to know, is there another chance for me and her? or is it, that she is being really nice? Please Help!! Thanks! Note: she got switched out of the one class we had together, right before we stopped talking, because she was moving up to a higher class.
Author UnamedSeven Posted November 23, 2008 Author Posted November 23, 2008 Any and all help is appreciated (needed!!)
silentcharon Posted November 23, 2008 Posted November 23, 2008 Do you know how long her relationship were? I didn't read your first couple of stories. I'm asking because, the length of the relationship may be a factor. If she just came out of a long term relationship, just let her be. She needs to grieve for her relationship. Or else, if you end up doing something with her, you may end up being the rebound. I would strongly suggest that you not do anything and let her grieve. If she really likes you, she'll come to you (eventually!).
Author UnamedSeven Posted November 23, 2008 Author Posted November 23, 2008 Thanks for being the first to post, lol. Well, she moved here in June, and broke up with her boyfriend right before this. She told me how it was just a natural break up (not because she was moving). She may need more time, but its hard to say. I just don't want her to never tell me anything, and me having to ask her out in a few months. We only see each other through School, and when school is over, (June) thats it. Its a while from now, but i don't want this Summer to be the death to "us". And thats if there is any
silentcharon Posted November 23, 2008 Posted November 23, 2008 Well, why don't you ask her for coffee outside of school (without the intention of anything other than just being friends)? You'll at least have the opportunity to at least develop some sort of friendship outside of school, and that's a good place to start before the summer break deadline. Even if you guys didn't end up dating, she's more likely to stay in touch. Good luck!
Author UnamedSeven Posted November 23, 2008 Author Posted November 23, 2008 That sounds like a good idea. Its just, i wish that i was able to tell how she felt about me, without having to do anything that i would regret. If i knew that she just wanted to be friends, then i can accept that. But, i'd rather not have to go through with the process of being heartbroken again. Is there any way for me to do such a thing?
madgun68 Posted November 23, 2008 Posted November 23, 2008 That sounds like a good idea. Its just, i wish that i was able to tell how she felt about me, without having to do anything that i would regret. If i knew that she just wanted to be friends, then i can accept that. But, i'd rather not have to go through with the process of being heartbroken again. Is there any way for me to do such a thing?Sure.. You need to remind yourself that this isn't a date. You're just hanging out. Set not expectations. (Choose an appropriate activity that reflects this.) Let her set the pace. It's okay to be flirty but keep it light. See how she responds and react accordingly.
Author UnamedSeven Posted November 23, 2008 Author Posted November 23, 2008 I know that this on the top of my "to do list", but i really don't want her to think that this is anything more than just us hanging out. I know that if i tell her, she may understand, but we haven't hung out outside of school. Its not that i'm afraid (i admit, i am just a little) but rather if she sees that this is just us hanging out
madgun68 Posted November 24, 2008 Posted November 24, 2008 I know that this on the top of my "to do list", but i really don't want her to think that this is anything more than just us hanging out. I know that if i tell her, she may understand, but we haven't hung out outside of school. Its not that i'm afraid (i admit, i am just a little) but rather if she sees that this is just us hanging outThat's why I suggested something appropriate. What about hanging out at the mall? (Heck, if there are females in your family you need to buy Christmas gifts for, you can ask her if she'll help you shop for gifts.) Works well because you could always choose to have lunch there as well if things are going good. If she agrees, that'd be a good point to get her number.. Then you can talk on the phone and set it up.
Author UnamedSeven Posted November 25, 2008 Author Posted November 25, 2008 Yeah good call. I really have to go Christmas shopping too lol. Thanks for the help, by the way. I'm not too sure when im going to do all of this, but i am going to have to do sometime soon. Its really hard to tell how she even feels, sometimes. Like, today she was really happy, but towards the end of school, she wasn't as energetic, but still happy. Idk i didn't want to be on her case, but still, it makes me worry constantly. Especially whenever i'm around her because then i think that I am making her feel bad or happy but i just don't know. I think i'm over-reacting about everything.. This is way too stressing. I'm literally on the point of just asking her out and hoping for the best
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