Agent_99 Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 Just to be clear I am very new to dating. I have always jumped right into relationship mode with people and I am trying NOT to do that. I am kind of looking for a male perspective here. Although I am a lesbian I find myself dating a transguy, a female to male. And for the most part the energy from him is masculine. Although female perspective is more than welcome here too. Now I have been on quite a few first dates, and either I or they decided that it wasn't going to work. Then I went on a first date with someone and we really seemed to click, because it is somewhat long distance (I live about 4 hours away). So we kind of combined our 2nd and 3rd dates into one weekend where I stayed at his house. We were not intimate, athough we cuddled a lot and were touchy with each other. While we went out both nights I was there, it was to meet his friends, but we were still very much a couple on these dates. While we were at his house, we pretty much cuddled and talked a lot. We were both a little sad for me to leave. Since I came home last sunday I have been the one to initiate all phone calls. And usually when I call he has to go after a few minutes. We are planning for him to come over to my place next week for Thanksgiving. So it's not a little thing. I felt like we really connected emotionally. But now I'm so unsure! Tonight I asked him if he wanted to back out of coming over here, and he said that he was looking for ward to the adventure. So on one hand there seems to be a lack of contact on his part, but he's still saying he's interested, yet I'm not feeling it. Am I just being neurotic here? How should I go about this. My usual style would be to confront it head on, but somehow that feels all wrong with this person. Somehow I feel like I have now become the pursuer and I'm not comfortable in that position. So advice is GREATLY appreaciated here. ~99
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