OCCDAVE Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 Like i said on another thread my girlfriend just fell out of love in a span of a day sigh.I miss her dearly but i dont want her to feel im still sobbing over her so do i continue to try to play the i got a gf card or just flat out stop updating her via my myspace status how im doing.Im so crushed we talked about me popping the question around xmas but now that's not gonna happen
Geishawhelk Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 Go complete NC. COMPLETE NC. It took longer than a day. She just wasn't honest with you - or herself.
lofi_tokyo Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 Geisha is right. Go NC. It is more than likely your ex was having doubts for a longgg time, she just was not showing it, possibly because she was giving herself reasons to stay. One of my female friends had an ex who made ALL SORTS of plans for their future together. He talked and talked and she just nodded away, but never really got into it - why? Because she just wanted to live in the moment, she wasn't sure what her future would be like. So she eventually left him over it, he never saw it coming, but for her it had been months since she had been kind of vacant. Anyways, thats that. Go NC, heal. There are many people here who have been left by their fiances, hopefully you can speak with some of them and help each other cope.
EmperorR Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 Geisha is right. Go NC. It is more than likely your ex was having doubts for a longgg time, she just was not showing it, possibly because she was giving herself reasons to stay. One of my female friends had an ex who made ALL SORTS of plans for their future together. He talked and talked and she just nodded away, but never really got into it - why? Because she just wanted to live in the moment, she wasn't sure what her future would be like. So she eventually left him over it, he never saw it coming, but for her it had been months since she had been kind of vacant. Anyways, thats that. Go NC, heal. There are many people here who have been left by their fiances, hopefully you can speak with some of them and help each other cope. Yup and it sucks when people do that, its selfish, stringing you along for months when they know its over in their mind, and then dropping the bomb, they've already moved on.
hereandnow Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 Same thing happened to me man. One week she wanted me over every day, the next she needs space, now we're broken up. It's really hard. Those great memories from not long ago want to pop into my head, but hey, that's not the present. Then sometimes I think about what she'll be doing in the future, will she miss me, want to get back together. If you have one foot in the past and one foot in the future then you're s***ting on today! I find it hard to take this advice myself, but it's the truth. I try and ask myself when I'm getting into this, "How am I doing right now." Try to connect to my present. Feel myself physically. My whole self, not just my mind trying to run things. Breathe. Give myself some space to feel. I have a really hard time with this, but it's good advice!
Author OCCDAVE Posted November 21, 2008 Author Posted November 21, 2008 Same thing happened to me man. One week she wanted me over every day, the next she needs space, now we're broken up. It's really hard. Those great memories from not long ago want to pop into my head, but hey, that's not the present. Then sometimes I think about what she'll be doing in the future, will she miss me, want to get back together. If you have one foot in the past and one foot in the future then you're s***ting on today! I find it hard to take this advice myself, but it's the truth. I try and ask myself when I'm getting into this, "How am I doing right now." Try to connect to my present. Feel myself physically. My whole self, not just my mind trying to run things. Breathe. Give myself some space to feel. I have a really hard time with this, but it's good advice!That's some really good advice there dude it's just very hard.
hereandnow Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 I'm not any good at it either. It doesn't take much for me to fall into some really s***ty thinking. We've been broken up for a month now. Something that's been helping me is starting to think about, and talk to other women. At first it hurt a little to do it (as if thinking about my ex didn't hurt!) but more and more 'm thinking there are other possibilities out there, one of them could be the one. Man I really feel for you. A friend of mine's gf just broke up with him yesterday and he's devastated. Takes me back to a month ago. I'm really not doing much better myself, she was my first love, even though I'm 27. A lot of days I feel like doing some stupid s***, but I know that ain't gonna help. Keep posting, it's been a lifesaver for me!
Author OCCDAVE Posted November 21, 2008 Author Posted November 21, 2008 I'm not any good at it either. It doesn't take much for me to fall into some really s***ty thinking. We've been broken up for a month now. Something that's been helping me is starting to think about, and talk to other women. At first it hurt a little to do it (as if thinking about my ex didn't hurt!) but more and more 'm thinking there are other possibilities out there, one of them could be the one. Man I really feel for you. A friend of mine's gf just broke up with him yesterday and he's devastated. Takes me back to a month ago. I'm really not doing much better myself, she was my first love, even though I'm 27. A lot of days I feel like doing some stupid s***, but I know that ain't gonna help. Keep posting, it's been a lifesaver for me!I think what hurts the most i didn't see it coming heck like i said thursday i was over and all went well then she just dropped a bomb on me.What stings even more she has 2 kids that have grown on me real bad i have bragged to everyone these are my kids and they even call me daddy.Not once have i said no i dont think u having 2 kids is two much i wanted to me there for them.
Author OCCDAVE Posted November 21, 2008 Author Posted November 21, 2008 Anyone know what to make of her latest status on myspace here it is. wants to be honest with everyone...even herself...but she's scared and doesn't want to expose that much of herself!!! By the looks of it she has already found someone or what.
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