worth it Posted November 20, 2008 Share Posted November 20, 2008 My ex-boyfriend of 5 years contacts me every so often. At least once a week. When I do reply he doesn't say he wants to get back together he just makes some excuse to call me. He contacted me again on Monday night at midnight with a text message that said "huh." Should I respond. I want to get back together but if he doesn't I want to start moving on. Him contacting once a week makes me curious if he misses me. Why is he contacting me? What are his motives? Is he to scared to tell me that he wants me back? Link to post Share on other sites
Geishawhelk Posted November 20, 2008 Share Posted November 20, 2008 who ended it? Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted November 21, 2008 Share Posted November 21, 2008 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showpost.php?p=1926949&postcount=2 IMO, do what you need to do for yourself. My bet is he's contacting you just to see if you still care and to keep the memories in front of you. It's a fishing hook. Link to post Share on other sites
Narf Posted November 21, 2008 Share Posted November 21, 2008 My ex-boyfriend of 5 years contacts me every so often. At least once a week. When I do reply he doesn't say he wants to get back together he just makes some excuse to call me. He contacted me again on Monday night at midnight with a text message that said "huh." Should I respond. I want to get back together but if he doesn't I want to start moving on. Him contacting once a week makes me curious if he misses me. Why is he contacting me? What are his motives? Is he to scared to tell me that he wants me back? Hey... My take on this is, yes he misses you and of course he would.. You were together so long and spent alot of time together... Yes you broke up but it doesnt mean he hates you or anything like that it just means you werent right for each other (or so he thought) and you have to accept... The Huh txt i would ignore... It seems to me like bait to get you to txt and when you do he feels good that you are still there if he changes his mind cause things didnt work out or arent the way he expected them to be with you out of the picture. Why would he be to scared to tell you he wants you back?? Would you be too scared if you broke up with someone and had a change of heart?? Yeah you might think damn he might not take me back BUT would that stop you trying?? Specially with someone you have known and been close to for 5+ years... I know how hard it is to tell someone what you want or feel when they have dumped you.. But in all honesty i think you have to call him say contact me if you want to discuss "Us" your calls and txt are giving me hope and they hurt so much... I need to move on if you have given us up... The chance you take could be he leaves and never calls again.. but he already broke up with you... So havent you already lost him? Yes No contact hurts and is hard! but it is harder to sit in limbo waiting hoping... The limited contact is giving isnt what you want... It is what he wants... His guilt is less if you are not mad and he doesnt have to face the break up all at once if he can keep talking to you when he feels like it... Link to post Share on other sites
Author worth it Posted November 21, 2008 Author Share Posted November 21, 2008 You are right. He showed up at my house one day without calling "to get his mail" and then we ended up hanging out. We ended up trying to make eachother jealous and saying hurtful things to eachother. After that I texted him and told him I loved him and he did not respond so I texted him nevermind I don't feel that way. Then I texted him the next day that he hurt me and that I don't want to know anything about his new life and please don't call me anymore because it makes it harder for me to move on. Then he called me 5 times after he got those messages but when I finally answered he had nothing to say about it so I was like well do you have anything to say about my text messages and he said i dont know what to say so I said well that says it all didn't you get my text that I'm moving on and don't call me or text me anymore. He said wow i thought you were happy and hooking up with other people. I said yea so what so did you and he said well i only hooked up with one. Then I said well i guess we can be friends but I don't think we should talk about eachothers sex lives or hookups with eachother and fyi i only hooked up with 2 people. He didn't respond for 2 days then he texted me that huh thing. I didnt answer and havent answered since. It has been almost a week. If he calls me again and doesnt talk about the relationship i guess I will say don't call me again unless you want to get back together. He is so weird. I don't know why he called me after i already told him not to once. Link to post Share on other sites
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