Jez_UK Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 Some good news for everyone here Apparently there has been a surge of people interested in dating. Online dating, singles nights, and speed dating have all seen a large increase in numbers, unusual for this time of year. The reason cited is recession... Has the economic gloom made you take a look at your priorities and put yourself out there?
Quinch Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 It's had the opposite effect for me. I lost my job a few months ago so I'm not going to start dating again until I'm working again. Restaurants, theatre tickets, flowers, gifts and romantic weekends away all cost money
OpenBook Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 Help me understand. Why would a recession spark a resurgence in dating efforts? Did your source cite a particular reason for it? Is it insecurity about the future that makes people want to settle down romantically? Or is it a distraction from their financial woes? ("I can't win at the stock market, but my odds may be better playing the dating market"??) Logically, I would think (same as Quinch) that people would tend to adopt a more conservative approach and become LESS likely to put themselves out there, during financial hard times. For myself, it's made no difference - I'm not any more inclined to seek a mate than I was before September 2008. In fact, it's even less of a priority now - all my attention and focus has been on looking at my long-range goals and re-evaluating my current position professionally. But the recession is young...
alphamale Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 The reason cited is recession... Has the economic gloom made you take a look at your priorities and put yourself out there? i think its because two people can live under the same roof for cheaper than one person
ipetree Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 In ways... I feel money divides people.. Years ago, when I was broke and struggling, I took more of an interest in others. I felt I also needed them. When money is rolling in, I am more content to do my own thing.
Author Jez_UK Posted November 20, 2008 Author Posted November 20, 2008 Help me understand. Why would a recession spark a resurgence in dating efforts? Did your source cite a particular reason for it? Is it insecurity about the future that makes people want to settle down romantically? Or is it a distraction from their financial woes? ("I can't win at the stock market, but my odds may be better playing the dating market"??) It's both - comfort and stability
Author Jez_UK Posted November 20, 2008 Author Posted November 20, 2008 In ways... I feel money divides people.. Years ago, when I was broke and struggling, I took more of an interest in others. I felt I also needed them. When money is rolling in, I am more content to do my own thing. This is also a reason why in certain western countries finding a partner can be such a tricky business, particularly over the last decade. In greatly impoverished countries, partnering up and having many children is more of a necessity, as well as reliance on your local community. We might see a paradigm shift as things get tougher for people.
D-Jam Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 I think it's more the season than anything. I've always had better luck with women in the fall, mostly because a lot of women who are single in the Spring and/or Summer tend to want to stay single. Most of the reasons revolve around wild girls nights out in the warm weather, flings possibly, etc. Around Fall, many men and women now see the weather getting cold and even thinking the holidays are approaching. They don't want to be the single lonely person at the holiday parties, family gatherings, and especially to not be dateless on New Years. I'm not saying people hook up for that reason, but they do become more "open" to dating and RLs when it's the holiday season. Most of the time, my "luck" somehow ran out in January...which surprises me because I figured someone thinking this is all "short term" would have waited til after Valentine's Day. ANYWAY...I think it's more the season that's causing this surge than the economy.
ipetree Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 I feel if everyone were somehow magically wealthy the amount of marriages would plummet. Men would be playing the field, and women would be enjoying their "independence". What is the first thing that comes to most single men's minds when asked what he would do if he won the lottery? A. Find a girl, be monogamous, get married, settle down, and save for a child's education? or B.Buy a sports car, travel, and date beautiful women? Obviously B. When men are poor they are more willing to settle down with one woman.
Lizzie60 Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 I don't see the logic in this... personally the recession has not made any difference in my life.. I guess we're not as 'touched' by it than the US are... I would think it would go the other way.. people would not spend as much.. strange.. What's the logic behind this?
ipetree Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 I don't see the logic in this... personally the recession has not made any difference in my life.. I guess we're not as 'touched' by it than the US are... I would think it would go the other way.. people would not spend as much.. strange.. What's the logic behind this? On a larger scale.. If you look at poor nations, family is very important. if you look at wealthy nations, family is not as important. As an example, lets say i am told I will win 1 million dollars tomorrow. Or i will get a big promotion. My mind thinks of money, not family, finding a girlfriend etc. Money is a substitute. If I am told i will not hve a job all year, I then think of what is the next thing I can use as a substitute. That would be love, sex, a relationship.
ipetree Posted November 21, 2008 Posted November 21, 2008 Seems like common sense to me. Money brings options to do all sorts of things. Travel, date many women, buy things, plan, invest it, etc.. When you have no money you have fewer options. Staying with one woman at home sounds a lot better than sitting at home by yourself.
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