What happen here ?

[OCCDAVE]

Ok today my gf of 2 and half years well now ex i guess contacted me and said i hope u find what makes you happy and just so you know it really is over so please move on.Ok we were ok last thursday we hung out and made out and so on.Then i said friday i think i need a bit of space im going through a tough time now no biggie in the past she was more then willing to give me it.Saturday comes bam stay the hell away from me and my kids im done with your drama.I explained to her to relax and i wanna be with her so sunday comes we are still iffy but she said come over monday plz.At this point i figure all is well nope monday comes stay the hell home and out of my kids and my life once again.At this point i went over there with some roses hoping to get to talk to me no luck i had to leave the roses on the floor.She called when i left and said im just done im done no explanation.She said u wanted this now your gonna get it.Since then i have explained i want to be with her i made a mistake but no shes taking it and already seems to be moving ahead making her myspace who wants to mingle im single and so on.Anyway to end this im just lost i cant believe 2 years can be over just like that will giving her the rest of the week work cause its killing me to cave in and text her or call.

[jason83]

Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

 

Sometimes a little space and time away from one another is a very healthy thing for both individuals. Why not give it a week or two and then go from there? Maybe she will even be the one to contact you

[Geishawhelk]

you give no background or reasons. It's hard to give anything when you don't give the whole picture.

What did you do to cause this, possibly?

 

And why do you think she might be blowing "hot and cold"?

[me4u2]

Maybe she doesn't understand why you want space all the time rather than be with her and work through it or let her help you through whatever rough time you're experiencing. You said "in the past" meaning you've done this space thing before. When you pull the space card it can be interpreted in many ways. Maybe she started to think hey every time the road gets rocky he's going to withdraw and need space rather than work through it. I don't know, just another perspective.

[Ronni_W]

My thoughts were along the lines of me4u2's -- depending on how often, and under what circumstances, you did your 'space thing' in the past, maybe she is just done with your waffling, or your inability to work through problems as a partner, or whatever it is for which you keep needing space.

 

It may be a better idea if you wait for her to contact you, rather than trying to contact her at all.

[OCCDAVE]

My thoughts were along the lines of me4u2's -- depending on how often, and under what circumstances, you did your 'space thing' in the past, maybe she is just done with your waffling, or your inability to work through problems as a partner, or whatever it is for which you keep needing space.

 

It may be a better idea if you wait for her to contact you, rather than trying to contact her at all.

I dont pull the space card often and i broke down and went to see her today she explained i dont hate you im just done and i dont even think we can be friends.She has a guy friend and told me im gonna go out with him again and i wont lie i liked him in the past but were on the same page about being friends nothing more.She started looking with this one glow to her face that same look she got when we first met.I poured it out said im beyond sorry i caused you so much pain i cant stress enough i wish i could take back what i said.She just listened and said we cant be friends im sorry gave me a kiss and we went our ways.Sigh just dont see how one day can erase 2 years .

[OCCDAVE]

I dont know what to do now i miss her so much and its to late sigh