lofi_tokyo Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 For no reason in particular. lol! I am like, weirdly, WEIRDLY, not broken up about my ex right now. Like, I seriously don't care about him or anything related to him, including our past relationship. I'm not distracted by another guy, I'm doing boring homework. This is weird because I have not experienced this before - a moment of absolute... "whatever" lol. I'm scared to even type this because I'm afraid it will go away! I just wanna do my homework, want orange juice, and yeah... nothing. This is strange. I will look forward to these moments in the future, when the heartbreak comes back. lol I think this may just be the first moment I've been totally okay with myself and what I'm doing since before the breakup. Nice to be feeling normal again!
Author lofi_tokyo Posted November 20, 2008 Author Posted November 20, 2008 Hehe thanks! I really do not think I've reached acceptance full on, but yeah, I'm at peace. For now anyways!
Chinook Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 Actually Tokyo, don't be surprised if you have turned a corner. I remember the 'meh, whatever' period descending... the heartbreak never really seemed to come back after that. There was the occasional episode in the car driving home from work when some song or other came on and I'd burst into fits of tears... aside from that it's stayed pretty much even. Almost as if the heart said 'eff this, enough already'. Glad you're feeling better.
Hersheys Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 Hi tokyovogue! Nice to know you're feeling better! The "whatever" feeling is a good sign that you are moving on and is coming to grips with the break up. Don't be scared for the feeling to go away. You are feeling this way right now because you are much stronger now and better able to handle your feelings and emotions. Sad / weird days will be less and less and eventually you'd be surprised that your ex and thoughts of the ex will no longer be a big part of your life.
Ingenue Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 tokyovogue, glad to hear that you've entered that 'whatever' phase. Enjoy it for the lightness and freedom it represents.
Author lofi_tokyo Posted November 20, 2008 Author Posted November 20, 2008 Well, I'm not over him. Nearly every morning, when I woke up, I would lay in bed and extra ten minutes and thing about him holding me etc. Sometimes my mind wants to do that, I have to stop myself, and it hurts. It makes me want to call my ex and shake him, it makes me want to say "don't you remember loving me!?". Its terrible, it is, but at moments like that? I don't believe him and I are done. I feel like maybe he misses me, and this new girl is a rebound. In my heart, I know thats a lie. He does not miss me, at least not right now. Ouch
alwayssme Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 Well, I'm not over him. Nearly every morning, when I woke up, I would lay in bed and extra ten minutes and thing about him holding me etc. Sometimes my mind wants to do that, I have to stop myself, and it hurts. It makes me want to call my ex and shake him, it makes me want to say "don't you remember loving me!?". Its terrible, it is, but at moments like that? I don't believe him and I are done. I feel like maybe he misses me, and this new girl is a rebound. In my heart, I know thats a lie. He does not miss me, at least not right now. Ouch exactly how I felt this morning. Like "Don't you remember everything you promised me? How could you possibly not love me anymore? We were inseparable!" And then I think he HAS to miss me somewhat, then reality kicks in and I know he doesn't. Ouch! It sucks!
Author lofi_tokyo Posted November 20, 2008 Author Posted November 20, 2008 Actually Tokyo, don't be surprised if you have turned a corner. I remember the 'meh, whatever' period descending... the heartbreak never really seemed to come back after that. There was the occasional episode in the car driving home from work when some song or other came on and I'd burst into fits of tears... aside from that it's stayed pretty much even. Almost as if the heart said 'eff this, enough already'. Glad you're feeling better. You know what? I think you may be right Chinook! I just posted a few hours ago how this morning I felt ****ty again - thats because every morning for me is going to be an emotional trigger for me until I heal. I just liked laying in bed and thinking of him for a few minutes before I got him each day, so its a habit I need to break. That being said, now that my day is rolling and I'm doing homework as usual, I feel pretty good again! No more missing him! Thanks for your comment, I think you may be right about me, and that makes me feel good.
Chinook Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 You know what? I think you may be right Chinook! I just posted a few hours ago how this morning I felt ****ty again - thats because every morning for me is going to be an emotional trigger for me until I heal. I just liked laying in bed and thinking of him for a few minutes before I got him each day, so its a habit I need to break. That being said, now that my day is rolling and I'm doing homework as usual, I feel pretty good again! No more missing him! Thanks for your comment, I think you may be right about me, and that makes me feel good.Do something else too... change the furniture around if you can. I moved my bed to a different wall... so I didn't have the same view lying there as when 'we' had lain there. It really worked well. Almost like being in a different room altogether. I think it's Paul McKenna who recommends moving furniture around and changing your surroundings - as a way to break the neural pathways associated with the other person. I couldn't do it initially, but when I did, it didn't half make a difference
frd150 Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 Do something else too... change the furniture around if you can. I moved my bed to a different wall... so I didn't have the same view lying there as when 'we' had lain there. It really worked well. Almost like being in a different room altogether. I think it's Paul McKenna who recommends moving furniture around and changing your surroundings - as a way to break the neural pathways associated with the other person. I couldn't do it initially, but when I did, it didn't half make a difference Thats strange I was thinking the same exact thing last night. There are still to this day too many reminders in my house and Ive been told that it looks like a pottery barn blew up in it:laugh:. Yeah I bought the stuff but on her advice. Maybe its the last piece of the puzzle...who knows. New stuff is expensive though esp, for a whole house,yeesh. Hey maybe I should have a LS garage sale. Theres lots of cool stuff:laugh:. TV, what your feeling imo is the first real signs of "Im over it". This is where other things in your life begin to consume you and your thoughts. Definetly a good thing.
Dlyrica Posted November 20, 2008 Posted November 20, 2008 I'm so glad you are feeling better! Keep with it
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